10 month old will not sleep through.... any ideas pleeeeese????

[aprilgirl1]

hiya, well my story, ten month old little boy who is perfect in everyway except at SLEEPING! and im starting back at work next week and dont think i will be able to function with the amount of sleep we are getting. He goes down with a fight every night about 9 ish ( would love it to be earlier )with me cradling him and on a bottle, he'll wake up about 11ish for another 7/8 oz bottle then about 2 ish for another bottle this feed he will not go back in his own cot if i left him he' lie and cry until i can take no more and get him into our bed, which he'll be there till morning with another feed at 5 then up about 8, but because he's drank so much milk during the night he's not eating much through the day, tried giving him water instead but he goes beserk and cries until he gets milk. idealy id like advice on how to get him to cut the night time feeds and sleep through but also how to get him into his own cot with out us having to sneak him in while he's asleep ??? any advic grateful xx

[PutThatInYourPipeandSmokeIt]

Hi omf - do either of you snore?? Could it be that you're waking him up without realising? Also - my 9 month old is very similar - either teeth or a cold or someone comes to stay so we can't let her shout and then we're back to square one again. It's so annoying!

[DesertRose]

hi
i am also in the same boat it is hell!! altho my ds has plenty food during day and is only waking out of habit.

over the last week i have stopped night feeds until 5am but he still takes hours to get to sleep and awake loads in the night.

i wish i could do cc but he gets so panicky its soooo hard

big hugs to all the fellow wakers

[omf]

Hi desperately seeking advice for a 9mth old who goes to bed no problem but wakes several times a night. Have followed Gina fords instructions with sleep routines and trouble shooting but each method only works for a few nights. baby is in our room as he will need to share with our 6 year old, which obviously is out of the question as he screams like the blazes. Have tried cc, drink of water, cuddling, room pitch black, now do hand on his chest and a dummy which does settle him but can take up to two hours! Have moved out room and slept on blow up bed for a week in our hall and the little blighter slept through after a couple of nights, when we moved back in, a week later he started again. He is teething badly and on his eighth tooth so is that the prob. feels like whenever things settle he gets another tooth or a cold or an ear infection that cocks the whole bloody thing up! My other two never woke from teething and slept really well. Please please help

[RBH]

Also agree with ratfly. I was having same problem with dd2 and what we did was start by diluting the formula with 6 scoops to 7 oz water, then the next night 5 scoops all the way down to 2 scoops. It worked well because her tummy was feeling full but she was waking hungry and actually finishing her morning milk and eating breakfast. After about 3 days of the 2 scoops she started to be able to go through because she was finally eating and drinking enough in the day.

I wouldn't have done this if she had been drinking all her milk in the day as then I would have said she was genuinely hungry but as she was only having 3 oz in the morning and was trying to drop her 2pm bottle I figured she was just getting her meals at the wrong time. Good luck!

[DaddyJ]

april, it's a battle alright, isn't it?

As much as I agree that you need to be firm
to slowly reverse the situation I am not sure
CC is the way forward at this stage.

Is he still waking up lots in the night for food?

[aprilgirl1]

thanks for advice still battling on with him, the cc is not working at all everytime i leave him to cry he cries until he vomits violently all over, i cant stand to see him like this... even with me in the room isnt a comfort to him , dp is working away i cant do this on my own.
i have cut his day time bottles out and a
he is taking his food better but this is still not making a difference to his night time sleeping.... love him so much but im so tired xx

[ratfly]

Wow! I can't believe that I actually knew what I was talking about!

[puffling]

I agree with all other posters. He's got used to taking in his calories in the night. For his sake and yours, you need to redress this by cutting down the night milk and upping the solids in the day. You could try some highly calorific foods e.g. avocado mixed with banana.
DD at 10 months had a morning and bedtime bottle of 7oz and just solids and water in the day.

[gegs73]

Like ratfly said diluting the formula - one less scoop every couple of nights with the same amount of water worked for us with ds1. It meant that he took more milk in the day and within a week stopped waking up for milk at night. Worth a try.

[ratfly]

Someone suggested once that you could give an 8oz bottle, but only put 7oz formula (so it is more dilute) in it. then gradually decrease the powder you are putting in until it is mostly water? or something?

[BigHotMama]

Hi Aprilgirl, sorry to hear your ds having probs sleeping. I definately think he's probably waking out of habit for his feeds, we dropped ds' night feeds around 5 months I think? Not sure how you go about it though as ds stopped waking up for his? Hope it improves for you.
Our ds is 10mo too and we're experiencing problems putting him down at bedtime at the moment, he is very clingy and screams at bedtime, its so hard but we let him cry for 20mins or so and then go into him comfort him then put down and usually within 10mins he's gone and wakes up next morning around 7ish.

Good luck

[DaddyJ]

callmeoc, just worked out who you are

How are you getting on with the night wakings?
Hope things have improved - sorry the advice was bit meagre last time

[Sexonknackeredlegs]

Oh bless her! We don't quite get that, but she goes to bed fine, and rarely comes out of her room until 7.00 the next morning. Although saying that, God love her she woke at 9.00 p.m. tonight bursting for a wee. Dh ran up and sorted her out and she was back in bed and asleep again within minutes - no messing.

Sorry, we have taken over this thread a bit!

All I can say, is be tough, even tho it is hard.

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

mine too she 4 in Nov.

Asks to go now "Mummy im sooooooooo tired I have had a very busy day"
so cute

[Sexonknackeredlegs]

Dd was the same sort of age if I remember correctly. It was a bloody nightmare, as dh was working away at the time, so was left to deal with it myself. As you say though, if you give them an inch they will take a mile, so giving in was not an option.
She is still great at bedtime now (she is 4).

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

Yes my dd was the same sleeping through from 6 weeks but when she got to 18 months she suddely thought "hang on,i dont want to go to bed now" and we had to leave her to cry (checking every 10 mins) for 3 nights.Ist night we were up and down for 6 hours but by the 4th night she went off within minutes of going down at 7pm

It awful hearing them cry but I knew if I put her in our bed it would never stop

[Sexonknackeredlegs]

I have to agree with ChocolatePeanut. Both dd's were sleeping through from 6 weeks.

We did have trouble with dd1 at times, and used controlled crying.It is bloody hard, but in the long run benefits everyone.

Best of luck.

[CHOCOLATEPEANUT]

its hard to give advice as every mother has a different view.My personal view is that he is having too much milk and there is no routine. I know this word is a dirty word to some folk but if you want a baby that sleeps and eats we have to teach them what to do.

Also and this may be hard for you,I would be firmer.Hes got you by the balls and you may have to go through a bit of controlled crying or whatever the term is for him to learn to go off to sleep by himself and stay asleep.

I hope I have not offended you,I really feel for anyone who is not getting any sleep and really feel that it can be solved by routine. My dd was a 'contented baby' i had the book and swear by it (again this is an entirely personal view)
good luck

[DaddyJ]

oh, x-post with callmeovercautious

[DaddyJ]

cc works similarly to what you are doing at 2am
but instead of letting dc cry it out
you check on him at increasing intervals
until he has settled himself.

However, you need to be sure that your dc
is not crying because he is hungry
which might not be easy at the moment
seeing as he takes a big chunk of his
food intake during the night.

So the first question is: how can you make
sure he eats more during the day and less
during the night?

bump

[callmeovercautious]

I see daddyj is here already - v supportive chap!

If you want to consider cc then you have to be prepared, I used it to get DD to go down earlier (she was crying with exhaustion anyway) she had a feeding to sleep association too but she is bf. The key is to break that link which is v tough.
A blankie or fave toy may help.

Will check in if you need to talk it through.

[aprilgirl1]

oh and he's got 'softee' his little bear that goes everywhere with him