Hi there,
I am mum to 2 girls 4 and 14 weeks. We had major sleep issues with DD1 she didn't STTN until she was around 2.5 yrs, we'd spend HOURS each night trying to get her to sleep; she'd wake frequently and be awake for hours. I suffered with mild PND and I have no doubt in my mind that the sleep deprivation and lack of down-time was a primary cause.
Fast forward to DD2 and I am starting to get a little anxious about the amount of time it is taking to get her to sleep. She is, on the whole, a better sleeper (touch wood), which is wonderful. However, it takes me on average 2 hours to get her down at night. In the last few weeks there have been a handful of occasions where I have spent up to 3 hours to get her down. We have a consistent bed time routine in place and once she does eventually go down, she'll do a good 4-5 hours chunk of sleep, which is bliss.
I am well-versed on sleep-cycles and making sure that she is in deep sleep before putting her down, but it seems to take forever for her to transistion into deep sleep. DD1 was the same. In terms of naps, she was doing good chunks of sleep in the sling (up to 1.5 hours 2-3 times daily), though tends to mostly cat nap now. Regardless of the amount of daytime sleep, it still takes a few hours to put her down at night.
With each DD I am/did -- EBF on demand and allow baby to feed to sleep and use breast to pacify; co-sleep; use sling. I am finding myself getting frustrated with the amount of time it takes to get DD2 to sleep at night. I have tried to discuss this with my husband, but he is of the view that I am too influenced by the advice given by others, that I read too much cr*p on the internet and that, when people say their babies STTN or are easier to put down to sleep, they are exaggerating. In his view, 2 hours is perfectly normal and very common. I can't help thinking that I am, in part, creating strong sleep associations with the BF to sleep... DH refutes this.
Whilst I know that it is unhelpful to compare your children to others, I am interested to know what other mum's experiences are -- how long it takes to get your baby to sleep; how; where they sleep, etc. Sorry for the long post and TIA for any replies...
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mummalumma · 03/11/2015 21:40
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