Well - my tuppencehappeny here - I don't feel these threads should be deleted. Once you start deleting threads becuase they are seen as "not what MN is about" or MN or hte posters may incur legal liability on teh responses where do you draw the line?
For e.g. with regard to legal liability - if someone posts that they saw a child being "abused" , should that thread be deleted wiht the MNHQ response being to inform the police in case legal liability is later incurred by not informing anyone and the abuse turning out to be true? Or if a post states that they saw someone stealing from a supermarket but who looked like a downtrodden mum with say 6 kids starving ( extreme example i know) and the MNer didn't report to supermarket staff as she felt a bit sorry fo rperson and uncertain , should that thread be pulled and advise given " tell the police" in case MN and other posters are later guilty of aiding and abetting a crime by failing to report?
of course not, it's nonsense.
When you come to examine the other arguemtn about suicide threads not being "what MN is about" - that's even more insiduous. What is MN about then? It is a parenting forum for us to support eachother. Should all topics about non parenting issues be deleted then as not being "what MN is about"? No. MNHQ has taken the decision quite sensibly to widen the genre of what we may discuss in recognition of the fact that we are a big site comprising a wide band of parents with different interests and areas of concern and that the Site will be more succesful if it covers matters such as ebay, favourite books and good housekeeping as well as strictly parenting subjects. A one stop shop for all your needs/wants /chats etc. So why should suicidal threads be different? Those represent the issues concerning that poster at that time and desesrve "air time" as much as issues cocnering other posters of a seemingly more "palatable" nature.
As for the arguemtn about MNers not being "experts" and that , therefore , it is "not our job" to advise - what utter rubbish. Who here is an expert on the subjects they post on? Very few I imagine. Who here is qualified to post on those subjects. Even fewer. Does it or should it stop anyone posting? Of course not. Threads would be very brief and boring if it were. On breastfeeding threads for e.g. many of us have wide ranging views gleaned from our own experience and perspectives. Should we be informed that we are not qualified to present these views and that,therfore, "it is not our job to do so" or that our views could attract "legal liability" should a MNer follow our advice and suffer "loss"? Again, of courrse not.
And from the sheer simplistic viewpoint of human suffering and compassion, if someone posts on here for help who cares if they are "not that close to suicide or they wouldn't be posting"? Who cares if they are attention seeking or faking? Who really knows how genuine many or any of the threads of MN really are anyway? For that matter many a problem could be made up by a lonely woman somewhere in teh country who is desparate to reach out and connect wiht other mothers and "invents" for e.g. a potty traning problem to connect. Who loses by responding to such a thread? When it comes to serious issues such as miscarriage/death of a child or partner we all ( quite rightly) reach out in support and womanly compassion despite our lack of expertise. Why should suicide be treated any differently?
There is always the option of not posting on a particular thread if it is found disturbing or voyeuristic. You can even hide the thread. But for the person out there with the pills and water, that thread may be the last chance to connect wiht humanity before those pills are swallowed. Would you deny that person the chance to post just because you found it offensive, upsetting or irritating. I know I wouldn't.