Needing a male prostitute...

[Spiderling]

I’ve a very high sex drive, yes have some fun ‘helpers’ from Ann Summers etc - but I can’t take this any longer; I want to be touched and held.

Long story short happy married, 10 yr old son and love husband truly, but one catch - I’m 41, husband is 62....Yes, 21 year gap.

Not having erectile problems or anything, but no interest at al!!! No intimacy for a bloody long time now, have tried everything from books to advice online so now really, seriously thinking about professional escort/gigolo/prostitute - but just don’t know where to look or how to hire! I don’t want an affair - basically I just need a good fuck, so so badly!!

Anyone with any advice or ideas? Thank you ladies and sorry if I seem a bit blunt 🤭

[TomPinch]

@AverageGuy

I got a days ban on Fab for posting details about a singers club near Heathrow...

Did they not like it being all about that bass

[MrsBerthaRochester]

Women of Mumsnet raise your standards. There is no need to lower yourself to pay for sex just go on any dating site and you will be inundated.
Mumsnet I find some of the male posters comments on here beyond creepy. Can Mumsnet at least be a safe space for women to post. I believe men have their own forum?

[MisterT373]

@AverageGuy

Oh yes - they hate Ab Fabs.

[AverageGuy]

I got a days ban on Fab for posting details about a singers club near Heathrow...

[MisterT373]

@Etaina @sillyduckseverywhere

To be honest it wasn't even that bad for me - I asked that a poster let everyone know when he was going to attend a venue so I could make sure I wasn't there at the same time he was due to his appalling banter. I said that if I was there when he was that I would seriously consider drowning myself in the hot tub.

See - not bad at all!

[Etaina]

MisterT373 another one here who'd like to know how on earth you got a ban from Fabswingers!

[Sillyduckseverywhere]

@MisterT373

Can you get suspended on Mumsnet Forum? I am currently undergoing a 5 day suspension from Fabswingers Forums so I am a bad boy by nature....

Jesus christ what do you have to do to get a fab ban? 🤣

[Parkerwhereareyou]

Bloody hell typos - I can actually speak English!

[Parkerwhereareyou]

I didn't see the deleted posts but by the sound of it, someone said it was wrong that @Spiderling is being given helpful advice about how to find sexual fulfilment, whereas a man would be slated for his tentative question about using a prostitution or other person to provide him with sex?

@AverageGuy
🙏 thank you. Very nice what you said. I personally think just right.

These sex boards are supposed to be for people to explore and ask for help/advice with sensitive and sometimes taboo issues that they can't talk to anyone about in RL.

So we should always be as neutral and un judgemental as we can be, I think.

[SparklingStars10]

@AverageGuy - I’ve read through all of the posts and I think what @LavenderEast means is that if a male posts he’s in a sexless marriage and he suggests sex out of the marriage, he is often met with hostility, if a female posts then the reaction is often different.
I think it’s important to remember that no opinion will be the same, many will condone certain actions and others will condemn those actions, a lot of this is based on our own experiences.

[AverageGuy]

I'm about to poke the wasps nest, and am expecting to be royally flamed...

@PinotPony - I'm not surprised by the post from @LavenderEast

We men have done an outstanding job of convincing women that sex is somehow taboo, or dirty, or reserved for high days and holidays etc etc.

We have very cleverly managed to somehow convince the world that it's ok for a man to sleep with as many women as they like, and they are applauded, and even respected for it.

A woman tries it, and she is a slut, or a whore, or a tramp.

There are places in the world where men have convinced the female sex that a period is somehow dirty.. We've done a really great job...

Personally, I'm all for a woman that revels in her sexuality. Why can't a woman enjoy sex as much as (or even more than) a man? Why is it a problem?

@Spiderling obviously enjoys and wants sex, and isn't getting any from the one person in the world society says it's ok for her to have sex with (been there, done that.. ), so she has reached out here, to ask a question.

She, and anyone else that has responded, doesn't need to be put down any more than they already are, thank you.

[PermanentTemporary]

If there's no chance of reviving intimacy with your dh, then I wouldn't judge. But why pay? I found adultfriendfinder did the job for me, and also met some nice people on fabswingers. Just be very clear on exactly what you want, and be very picky; you will have almost infinite choice. Don't be manipulated into staying in contact with someone you're not interested in.

[HermionePotter123]

@Spiderling I can imagine how frustrating it is to be in a sexless marriage and agree that toys cannot replace intimacy. But imagine the uproar if a male poster had put up about his wife not wanting sex and was looking for a prostitute. What does your husband say when you try to speak to him about not having sex? Is your marriage good in every other respect? I'm understand you may not want your marriage to break down if you have a good relationship overall but I'm really not sure that paying for sex is the solution.

[AverageGuy]

@Parkerwhereareyou - thanks again!
Exactly!
I'm still here, and have learnt to be more circumspect.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@AverageGuy really I do remember it quite well. It was very funny and I didn't see anything at all that seemed even remotely offensive. You were joking. All your strikethroughs showed that too.

It just made me laugh. I suppose if someone was feeling vulnerable in some way to any of it, then it might have struck a wrong chord, which is a real pity. But I can't see that was because you were trying to be disrespectful or abusive.

Some of the things I've had said to me have been beyond horrible. Especially if you ever expose yourself by being honest, or if your opinion goes against the general stream of some heavy lobbies on here.

Don't worry. At least you didn't get totally suspended!!

[AverageGuy]

@MisterT373 - yes, you can! Caution is advised.

@Parkerwhereareyou - I'm glad you thought so! I can't tell what I'm supposed to have done wrong you here - sorry.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@AverageGuy
Ha yes I did see it!! Yes it was memorable! 😂

I honestly don't understand what you did wrong though? You were offering to help?!! And the thread title itself was a bit of an invitation ...

@MisterT373 that sounds like possibly quite a dubious badge of honour ... daren't ask why!

@Danceswithwhippets
Those bins have to be protected by an alarm ...

[MisterT373]

Can you get suspended on Mumsnet Forum? I am currently undergoing a 5 day suspension from Fabswingers Forums so I am a bad boy by nature....

[AverageGuy]

@Parkerwhereareyou - thanks.
Did you not see it? It was in reference to your idea about dial-a-guy. I was volunteering!

I obviously can't repeat it in a public forum... Don't want to get suspended again!

[Danceswithwhippets]

Ooooh er @Parkerwhereareyou, what big bins you've got.

Mine's out now, ready for tomorrow, I follow my neighbours lead. The boys in high vis come early and nobody deserves to see me in my nightie.

[Parkerwhereareyou]

Mind you, what got deleted?

[Parkerwhereareyou]

@AverageGuy

I want to apologise to anyone that has taken offence at any of my posts.

If you believe I am being / have been inappropriate, than you have my most humble apologies. It has never been my intention to upset anyone here. I've had some great advice and help, and wouldn't want to loose out on being part of this great community.

Consider me chastised. It won't happen again.

What did you say, @AverageGuy ??

You haven't said anything bad I think? My ref to not being offended (if relevant) was a joke back to @Danceswithwhippets

I always think what you say is good! You have my vote 🙏

[TheRealForReal]

@AverageGuy I don't think you've said anything that could offend anyone! Dont consider yourself chastisised, there's no need :)