How the hell can I get my yr 10 to realise how important the next two years is ?

[Howlongtillbedtime]

He has always coasted along getting ok results but I don't think this is going to work as a plan for passing his GCSEs .

I have tried nagging (pointless and depressing)
I have tried talking to him about how is future depends on them (scary and probably not exactly true)

Should I just leave him to it?

School are advising they start revising now to stop a mad panic in a years time. It makes sense to me but I think for him it's too far away and it is also freaking him out to think about it too mucb.

His homework is on time but generally last minute and rushed.

I just want him to make the most of his time and not be pissed off he wasted his chance ( I went to a truly shite school so am aware I am projecting)

Any ideas ?

Even if it's to tell me to stop interfering!

[Marypoppins19]

Locally we have groups that run sail and revise weekends or camps and study weeks. Structure and fun!

[expat1407]

Trust me, you are not alone. With teenagers, specially boys, this is common problem. From your post, it looks like he is doing his homework and managing to stay afloat. It is a good start.

Wait till first term report and parents meeting. This is beginning of year 10. Once the battery of Assessments and results begin, he will fall in line. A shocking result may wake him up as well.

The bottom line is, you can't do anything. He has to be self motivated. Your nagging will make him rebellious.

Just make sure that he isn't struggling too much in any subject. Get tution or help if his teacher isn't good for a particular subject at school.

You must also join Year 10 support thread. I got lots of ideas on study material. Moms are very resourceful and helpful on that thread. Here's the link

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/3372754-Year-10-GCSE-Support-Thread

[HPFA]

He is in top set for everything so I do think he will pass his exams but with a little bit of effort he could be looking at 8 and possibly 9s instead of 6s and 7s.

Aah, this is my frustration too ! I know with my head that these are decent grades but I also know if DD worked as hard as some of her friends she could turn a couple of those sevens into eights and a couple of sixes into sevens. Sometimes I think it would be easier if she was predicted to fail loads of them - at least then I could point out that she was really damaging her chances in life!

At the moment I'm still biting my tongue as I tend to think nagging will make things worse - she still has time to decide for herself to put in more effort so I'm just hoping really.

[RedHelenB]

But 6s and 7s don't rule anything out as regards their future.