Matilda - I'm afraid the grounds you listed for appeal are absolutely no use whatsoever. High academic ability, not wanting to commute, sad at leaving their current school - none of these will help I'm afraid, unless your children have Special Needs. Forgive me for being so blunt, but we had to appeal for a place for my year 10 son and I've jumped through all these hoops.
You need to look at the reasons the schools have given for refusing your DCs places and take things from there. I assume you have been told the schools are full up. They usually say they cannot accommodate any more pupils because it would mean the school is overcrowded, and more pupils would constitute a Health & Safety risk.
What you need to do now is put in formal appeals at the best-performing schools you have been rejected from, and:
a) find out the maximum number of pupils per school year that the school says it can officially accommodate (i.e. "160 pupils per year");
b) find out the ACTUAL number of pupils per school year the school has, going back for the last few years (i.e. current actual figure for Year 10 is 165, 2010 was 168, 2009 was 164). You can get these figures from the school admissions officer. They will have to provide you with this info becuase you are going through an appeals process with the school.
If you can prove that the school has consistently taken in more pupils than the official limit, then you have stronger grounds for appeal. Good schools are always over-subscribed in London, and almost always take a few more pupils than the official limit.
Something else to consider is that inner-city schools have a high rate of "churn", ie pupils leaving the school during the school year. This should also work in your favour.
Read through the school prospectus. If the school is a science or sports specialist school that will work in your DC's favour. Look at what the school claims to offer and try and put a case together as to why THIS school and no other is suitable for your DC. Are they the only local school offering Triple Science for example? Sell your DC to the school - explain how they will make a positive contribution to the school community. Offer to get involved as parents, run after-school clubs, fund-raising, prostitute yourselves as PTA raffle prizes,
anything at all you can think of.
Make an appointment to visit the head-teacher of the school, prefferably with your DC. Ask for a guided tour. Praise the school to the skies. Make the admissions officer your New Best Friend and send her a box of chocs every time she answers your queries.
Please feel free to PM me if you need any advice or hand-holding through all this - I know how difficult it is
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