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Would you turn and run from this??

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 20:38

Met a bloke about 6 weeks ago, he seems really nice, we have alot in common, he's great company, looking for the same things, good looking but:

He's had ex's that have really battered him, one that stole his money, some stalkers (apparantly). He comes across as a sweet bloke but I'm in 2 minds. We had a chat yesterday, he said he is interested in me/I'm fantastic etc but we've agreed to be friends (then he flirts with me (alot) ), he's said he doesn't want to get into a relationship with me and loose me or fall out and never see me again. He's on my FB account, he was honest and has said he's joined a section where he can meet people, he's looking for someone who wants the same as him . It's not a serious thing that we have, not kissed, chat every night, spend the odd day together, I have been avoiding him since yesterday, what would you do? I'm confused with all the mixed messages I get from him.

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 29/09/2009 23:05

It wasn't too bad.
I had to take ds in on Saturday, we spent ages talking. He's said again that he's not sure if he's going to stay here and he doesn't want to upset me if he goes home. He wants to take ds and I out for a meal. I don't know, he tries so hard sometimes, then others...

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overmydeadbody · 28/09/2009 19:58

I would run from it.

He sounds like a time waster to me.

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Katiekitty · 28/09/2009 19:55

Hey Fluffy, how's things? How did the dreaded coach trip on Sunday go?

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 23:02
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dittany · 24/09/2009 22:58

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NewLeaseofLife · 24/09/2009 22:56

Sounds like my ex. Def dump him!

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 22:53

Thanks Solid!!

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SolidGoldBrass · 24/09/2009 22:51

He's a whanger. Forget it. He sounds like one of these whiny losers who never get anywhere with anything and boohoo, it's always someone else's fault. He is Too Fragile for this Wicked World and no one really understands him, waaaahhh! IE most women who are not completely desperate rapidly pick up on his total self absorption and depart.
I would imagine he is cute in a pretty puppy-boy way and that's why he can get away with this wounded-little-doggy act. Someone should possibly tell him it will stop working when he gets a bit older, porks out and loses his lovely floppy hair.

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 22:46

It's OK. I frightened myself by looking at some drug side effects.

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Clary · 24/09/2009 22:45

well you know where we are babes (tho I must get some ironing done )

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 22:44

I think we're in the routine of chatting online!! He think's he's done something wrong.

It's OK clary

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Clary · 24/09/2009 22:40

fluffy sorry this is not working out but I have to say it (he) doesn't sound promising.

He either wants to be in a relationship with you or, erm, not!

What else are you upset about? Can we help?

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Katiekitty · 24/09/2009 22:34

So, does he think that you're always around for him?

If you've avoided him since yesterday and you've not spoken to him tonight, he is now asking what's up - does he think you haven't got other things to do? Let him wonder about you. He's had ample time to ask you questions!

Have you mentioned at any time the mixed messages he gives are very confusing?

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 22:14

It's OK.

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Katiekitty · 24/09/2009 22:11

Doesn't mean you have to sit next to him on the coach! Have you got an ipod? magazine? eye mask and ear plugs for a bit of shut eye?! Keep busy, sit next to DS and keep the fella at arm's length (easier said than done on a moving vehicle!)

Letting him wonder why you're not available online won't hurt either.

Sorry to hear you're stressed about other stuff too

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 21:59

I can't cancel, I've paid for the tickets!!

I'm being evasive, he's tried to phone and I've not picked up. I am really stressed at the moment, it's not just because of this. He's on MSN so he knows I'm online.

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Katiekitty · 24/09/2009 21:55

Is he messaging you on FB?

What's made him think there's soemthing up with you?

Don't reply to him!

Why are you and DS stuck with him on Sunday? Can you cancel whatever it is?

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 21:48

He's 28!! He's just asked me what's up. (sigh)

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 24/09/2009 21:47

Good grief - how old is he? He sounds like a self-absorbed teenager.

It's the fact that he's not asking questions about you that really tells the story. He so involved with how he feels about everything that you almost don't figure.

I would move on, it sounds like a bit of a head-fuck.

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 21:46

and ds and I are stuck on a coach with him on Sunday for hours!

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 21:45

Too late I'll make this conversation very short!!

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Katiekitty · 24/09/2009 21:42

Oh man! I've been out with men who have never asked me anything! It's so maddening! You ask them something, like "Ooh, what's your favourite film" they answer it and don't ask you yours, or indeed any other question! Haed, bang, brick wall scenario!

I would seriously advise you to retreat from him and not contact him for a few days, let him do the running (not that you've been chasing him), but let him demonstrate some get up and go, or at least do something, anything.

Ah, fluffy, he sounds too apathetic for you, you have get up and go and wit and verve, while he is merely coasting along, keeping you waiting in the wings.

He doesn't know what he wants, he doesn't know you as well as you know him, so how can he say he can't give you what you want?

I'm sorry this is happening to you as you were so excited when it all got going, I'll never forget your anticipation of your first date. NO wonder your hopes are somewhat dashed as you thought it might be going places.

Basically, a bit of thinking space between the two of you is required.

Do you have any Rl friends who can take your mind off him?

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cheerfulvicky · 24/09/2009 21:39

If he's not making it clear that he would like to be in a relationship with YOU then I would move on. Sorry.

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FluffySaysTheDailyMailsShite · 24/09/2009 21:34

He's been painting, working and moping about (apparantly).

He doesn't know alot about me, I have told him little bits, he's never asked anything though!! I think I'm unsure as to what to say etc so I'm waiting for him to ask me things. He's been very open with me though. He does know I like him, he's also said he doesn't think he can give me what I want, which is a relationship. Then he say's later he wants to be in a relationship with someone. I'm just confused.

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Katiekitty · 24/09/2009 21:26

hang on - 'hibernating'! What's he been doing in this time?

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