I really struggle to understand how children can suffer if their parent/s cut contact with their parents (the children's grandparents).
How can it be bad if it makes their parents (the children's parents) happier people?
There are some comments on this site suggesting that the children will suffer if they have no contact with their grandparents. I would like to know exactly how "you" think they suffer?
Does that not mean then that if both sets of grandparents are dead (sometimes way before the children are born) that the children will suffer?
I personally suffered as a child not because I did not have much contact with my grandparents (one of whom were dead, so obviously no contact there) but because my parents were control freaks. I did not think about my grandparents apart from at birthday parties and christmas.
I am actually glad I did not have that much contact with them because they too were just not nice people (same as my parents, control freaks, using money as a way of owning people, belittling (sp?)me, and the joyful list goes on).
I personally really wish that my parents had had the sense to cut contact (and stop worrying so much about losing out on their inheritance), worked on their own issues in order to have become more attentive and loving parents, instead of playing the martyrs.
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