As my username says, I long for a new life. I feel completely trapped and only see a decline in my future which is making me feel desperate and helpless.
I am in an extremely unhappy marriage of 20 years, we go through a continuous loop of a week of everything being OK, then a disagreement about something , then a week of not speaking to each other at all and completely avoiding each other in the home. This has been going on for years. We have not slept together in 3 years and do not share a bed.
I desperately want to separate. I work full time in a job I hate earning minimum wage. I've applied for so many jobs recently and not even heard back off 1. There is no way I could afford to separate on my wage.we have 2 preteens who cost a lot of money!!
I have also stayed because of covid , then husband had mental health problems so couldn't leave him then, now he is a completely different person, our marriage is dead in the water. Then didn't want to upset the kids as my daughter idolises him.
My eldest son is also starting with mental health problems, he has adhd and now suffers from debilitating anxiety which is controlling his life and ours.so I'm worried sick about him all the time.
My parents are nearly 80 and I know what's coming with them. I have health problems. I am also morbidly obese due to comfort eating. This makes me feel horrible but I just can't stop. Only have 1 friend who is always busy and the people I work with are 20 years younger and completely two faced.
I feel like I have problems coming out of my ears and don't know what to tackle first. I know I need to break it down and there are things I can do such as exercise, lose weight, start a hobby, try to make friends, do a qualification to get a better job etc.
But I just can't at this moment in time. I feel completely overwhelmed and am not in the right mindset to do any of that .I feel like I'm drowning. We are away for a uk break at the moment, I should be happy I'm off work and away, but I've been so stressed recently I feel ill all the time.
Has anyone been through similar and come through the other side?
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I want a new life, trapped by everything, feel helpless
Iwantanewlife40128 · 29/03/2024 11:05
Iwantanewlife40128 · 29/03/2024 11:19
I've not bothered which counselling because what could they possibly help with?
My distress is being caused by the situations around me , and they arent going to change
Iwantanewlife40128 · 29/03/2024 11:19
I've not bothered which counselling because what could they possibly help with?
My distress is being caused by the situations around me , and they arent going to change
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