And make it so my dc can accept the situation, and knows it is not on her, it is how grandma is and unfortunately it might not get better? I have used these words exactly, but it doesn't get us anywhere.
I am struggling with chosing other words that are still child friendly, strugglig trying to explain or tell her that grandmother is out of our lives.
Me and her father are seperated, mine and my daughters lives are getting so much better every day. Her physical problems, stress related, all vanished.
But she misses her grandmother my ex mil.
The relationship between me and mil was easy at first, after child birth it got more more and difficult, but I managed to keep it civil for my dc and managed for them to have a relationship. I wish I had not been such a push over all those years and a people pleaser though. I just can't explain to myself even, why it was more important to me mil wasn't upset with me, then if she upset me.
Things have seriously changed wirh mil's mental state after our having to flee our house due to the dangerous actions of her father. Mil also got dangerous, even attacked me.
Mil's other son made the decision to go nc many years ago, with his whole family, I now understand why.
But my daughter obviously does not.
She says she misses her, almost every day. Sometimes it lessens, but then something small happens and it comes again.
I would so much want to just tell her the truth, but ofcourse she is much too young.
Does anyone have any advice on how to explain, but not have their child blame themselves?
I would love to find a way for her to move on and accept.
It's been almost a year now fyi.
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How to explain to an 8 year old gmil will not be back in dc's life?
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Parrilalilalila · 28/03/2024 22:30
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