Tbf we hardly communicate nowadays but as her mum and my dad are in a ltr we occassionally meet.
I guess I just need to get this off my chest.
Before our parents got together she:
Dated 2 of my exes, laughed about me. ( in front of me) sabotaged a job.
After our parents got together ( 5 months after my mum died) her beahviour was equally weird. Her dd was mean to mine yet she called them cousins ( they aren't,) and said my dd was " horrible" for not wanting to be friends.
Demanded to know why I was distant from her mum and that her mum wasn't after my dad's house ....bored wtiting this now.
Oh ...and she gossiped about the anti depressants I was on to her friend.
Worse...my dad thinks the sun shines out of her arse and is always bangingbon about how talented she is...never encouraged my talent.
Also, she does a tinkly laugh if I confide my misfortunes to her ( I've stopped!).
Anyway as you can imagine...not a healthy friendship. I will have to see her occassionally...how do I act? Plus, I'm desperate to tell her how she's upset me but know there will be epic tantrums. My dh is friendly with her dh so dont want to rock the boat.
She did orhanise my hen do which was nice of her...ill give her thst.
To add insult to injury...i kind of ferl sad to have lost my dad to her...she informed me she will look after my dad in old age along with her mum. Hmmm.
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I want to phase out my " friend " but will still have to see her occassionally ...family gatherings etc.
malificent7 · 26/03/2024 06:15
malificent7 · 26/03/2024 06:51
Yes...i'm finding it hard.
The fact that our parents date is to do with how enmeshed and unhealthy things are/ were.
malificent7 · 26/03/2024 08:23
I think my problem is that i'm harbouring a lot of amger towards her and her mum tbh...i think I need to work on that.
Mrsjayy · 26/03/2024 08:24
She's not your friend really is she, she's somebody that doesn't seem to like you that much. Just be busy as pp suggested super super busy ! Then just see her when you half to.
malificent7 · 26/03/2024 06:51
Yes...i'm finding it hard.
The fact that our parents date is to do with how enmeshed and unhealthy things are/ were.
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