Does anyone have any magic ways of managing when you are (probably) prone to anxious attachment?
In a relatively new relationship with a genuinely decent man (they do exist!). We both have DC, busy lives etc and only short windows of time to hang out and catch up. In my rational mind, if he is quiet for a bit I know he is busy with his kids or just busy with life. My anxious (irrational) mind gets whirring with all sorts of crazy thoughts. It’s quite intrusive and distracting, it distracts me at work, and in other aspects of my life.
has anyone successfully got hold of these sorts of thoughts, and if so how? I don’t want constant reassurance, I need to be able to stand on my own two feet with this.
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Managing anxious attachment - tips?
FallenFigs · 25/03/2024 11:15
FallenFigs · 25/03/2024 11:15
Does anyone have any magic ways of managing when you are (probably) prone to anxious attachment?
In a relatively new relationship with a genuinely decent man (they do exist!). We both have DC, busy lives etc and only short windows of time to hang out and catch up. In my rational mind, if he is quiet for a bit I know he is busy with his kids or just busy with life. My anxious (irrational) mind gets whirring with all sorts of crazy thoughts. It’s quite intrusive and distracting, it distracts me at work, and in other aspects of my life.
has anyone successfully got hold of these sorts of thoughts, and if so how? I don’t want constant reassurance, I need to be able to stand on my own two feet with this.
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