Hi,
Bit of background, I'm 27, partner and I had been (until 2 weeks ago) together for 6 years and friends for longer than that.
To other people, and in some aspects, we had a great relationship. E.g. the way we got on with each other, laughed together etc. I would guess this is because we were friends first.
For the last two years however, I felt a rift growing between us. He had been struggling with his mental health and our sex life had all but ceased due to ED (on average sex once every 6 weeks). His communication has always been not great, as in if I text him I don't often get a reply which wasn't such a problem for me as we live together, but it got worse recently to the point where I didn't hear from him for two days while I was on holiday, despite sending him pics and a few messages.
We also have quite different values, i value happiness over success and due to his upbringing he is success over happiness, which is why since he got made redundant our relationship has been deprioritised.
I broke up with him two weeks ago and despite all this, im wondering if I made a mistake. He really is a great guy, we get on so well, he treats me well and absolutely adores me. I do think this should be the bare minimum but there's always people that tell you its so hard to find a good man.
Can anyone weigh in?
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Wobbling about breakup-partner and I have different values and communication styles
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Lostandconfused27 · 06/08/2022 09:55
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