Younger man/older woman, or older man/younger woman?

[CushionPushion]

What dynamic did you think is best?

[carwashthecat]

My husband is 8 years younger than me.. I'm 54 and he's 46 ... he makes me feel great..and we have a great life together ( I am on hrt though .. so that may also help 😬 )

[Joey69]

@Vainandjustrealised
that makes sense, even the linked articles say male menopause doesn’t really exist

The term 'male menopause', or andropause, is probably not accurate. Instead, experts prefer to talk about 'partial androgen deficiency of the ageing male' (PADAM)

[joojitzoo]

Even if men's collagen loss is gradual and women's more dramatic due to menopause, women tend to take greater care of their appearance than most men. Where women might look older is through weight gain possibly.

However, many men work outdoors in the sun, don't bother with skin care and lose their hair. All the beers creep up and can end up with man boobs and beer gut.

There are hotties in all ages if they look after themselves and had a good genetic base to start with. A sexy fit man in his 50s is very attractive but my observation is that you are more likely to see an attractive female in her 50s than a male because women tend to look after their appearance more.

[Adversity]

My friend was very happy with her partner who was 15 years younger. He was 21 when they got together. She had retuned to University to taker her Masters so they spent that first year as students together, he had just started his PhD. She had children aged 41 and 43. She very sadly died last year leaving children aged just 10 and 12 and a very young widower.

[Blanketplease]

Why is it only about looks on most of these posts? The ‘grumpy old man’ trope has become such for a reason! So many younger women on here and other forums/social media post about their ‘grumpy husband’ and how it’s ‘getting worse the older he gets’. I know women in real life who have divorced their husbands, not because he is physically aging poorly, but because they became narrow minded, impatient, grumpy, rude, boring, unwilling to learn anything new or do anything outside of their comfort zone (work, tv, pub, cycling usually) etc as they got older (50+).

My husband is older than me but at 60- something, he is still ‘vibrant’ and learns new skills, listens to other peoples points of view, enjoys activities and holidays etc, so we have the same mindset. He did ‘age faster’ when he hit 50 but that’s the human body, not a moral failing and nothing that would stop me loving him.

[godmum56]

I think its one of the least important parts of a relationship dynamic.

[Dartmoorcheffy]

I'm 52, dp is 40. We've been together 8 years. Never really notice the age difference at all. He has 2 children from a previous relationship and I couldn't have any. Never been an issue for us as a couple.