Long story short - I am very unhappy in my marriage and have, privately, come to the conclusion it is over. Largely due to my husband's behaviour over the years, I don't love or respect him and if we didn't have kids I would walk out right now and cheerfully never see him again.
I told him months ago I was very unhappy, and since then he's trying hard to be a good husband. This 180 degree change would be almost comical if it weren't tragic, but I don't believe a person can really change who they are deep down, and I don't like who he is deep down.
He looks at me like I am kicking a puppy when I don't respond warmly to him. I feel the guilt grinding me down, tempting me to retreat back into the lie of pretending everything is fine.
I understand that he is trying to save his marriage , but I believe he is only being nice because my open unhappiness impinges on him, does this make any sense?
He 's never bothered to consider my feelings before, he's spent 10 years putting himself first in all situations (and I let him). Has anyone else been in this situation, how did you stop the guilt from eating away at your resolve?
Sorry, I feel like I've posted quite a few threads on my situation but I appreciate the support available on here.
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VikingHelmet · 28/06/2022 10:59
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