Hands down I'm with a man child. Obviously everything wrong with the relationship is somehow my problem or my issue. I didn't notice his ridiculous over the top man-child behaviour until we had a child. Because of the hours we both worked we spent little time together that wasn't fun socialising. Well now covid has put paid to that, I've had a baby and been on maternity, I'm fairly certain my body has clamped shut and is just repulsed by the mere thought of his repugnant self, moaning daily about something or other and being generally self righteous or hurt if I point out any shortcomings (and there are tonnes). I honestly feel I've walked into some messed up time warp and I'm living in a 1950s/current day nightmare mash up! Even his mum has weighed in on a couple of things and yet when I change my plans to accommodate the petulant man-child he didn't actually want to do what he fought for. He just wanted to look like father of the bloody year and me the ogre. I've just spent 2.5 hours settling our baby back to sleep and he couldn't even be bothered to assist. He never does and has never helped even though he told me all the things he'd do with the baby he's done nothing.
Thank goodness I'm back at work and earning full again. I'm going to need it when this wendy house castle comes crashing down.
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ManOrAnimal · 22/11/2020 04:34
I agree with you spidermomma, these feelings of hatred develop over time, they are not immediate.
I loved and adored my DP in the first few years we were together, and particularly thought he would be a great Dad because of how he seemed to be with his DS.m, when we didn't live together.
Over the more recent years we've been together I have grown to dislike him due to his behaviour. As an example, I have no evenings because he does his hobby every evening, and won't put the DC to bed. DD3 has SEN, so it takes a couple of hours EVERY NIGHT to get her to sleep, and by that time, I'm exhausted too. I have no time in the morning, as he sleeps in until past 9am sometimes, as he's so exhausted from doing his hobby until late into the night, and he won't get the DC ready for nursery/pre-school, or give them breakfast.
I work full-time, so during the week, I have no time to myself due to him being a selfish bastard, and that's a kind description of him.
The only time he will take the DC is for a couple of hours lie-on on Sunday morning (i.e. now). However when I get up I'll have to do everything, as he won't have given the DC breakfast or bathed them, but he'll behave as if he's Dad of the year because he's given the DC a beaker of milk each to drink, and plonked them in front of the TV while he lies on the sofa 
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@Daisydoesnt thanks 
years of emotional abuse will do that.
Just packed up.
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It's awful, I'm in the process of preparing to leave mine, and am dreading telling him, as I'm sure he'll think it's a joke, so wedded is he to the idea that I won't leave him so as not to break up the family. I even do all the DIY in the house (bought a drill, electric screwdriver, paints and all kit), as I got sick of waiting years for him to get up off his arse. Sometimes I wonder what the actual point of him is, as the only thing he's really been useful for is creating the 2 DC, and I could have got what I needed from the sperm bank!
He's going to get the shock of his life, and the atmosphere at home will be terrible as we'll have to live in the same house while we sell (if he agrees to sell ).
Good luck with leaving, you will feel so much freer and lighter once you get rid of the useless lump.
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