Plenty Of Fish

[nandaandm]

Ok, so 3 years single. Joined match, but it was a bit crap due to lockdown, which is understandable. I've joined POF... I'm 42.., anyone had any success or am I wasting my time?

[Sparklyring]

Another one who met my incredible husband on POF 7 years ago.

[JustGettingStarted]

I've been on for about a week and it has been fun. No dates, yet. I'm not sure how to get them to move into real life meeting - they may be hesitant because of the pandemic, but I would meet for a coffee.

To my surprise, I really like Tinder, which I joined a couple of days ago.Yes, it's shallow. But one plus is that you'll never get a message from a man you find unattractive. Nor will you message someone wondering if they will like the look of you - you can only message those who have indicated a mutual interest.

I'm getting pretty good at predicting who will match with me. I'm getting a good idea of how attractive I am (or am not) to men.

I get a lot of messages from cougar hunters on PoF - I'm pretty hot for a 50-year-old, I exercise daily, have long blonde hair, tan, etc. But on Tinder I'm only shown to 40-60 year olds and I never swipe right on men younger than 48 or so. And in my experience the men my age who are actually still very attractive - stay very fit, have a full head of hair - don't swipe me. I think they're still playing for younger women and fair do's to them.

[beginnerwitch]

After a lot of rubbish dates and liars on there (and on other sites), I met my fiancé on POF nearly 4 years ago. Definitely worth persevering (and you'll have lots of stories to tell!!). You may get lucky quickly - I was the 1st person he met on the site.

[incognitomum]

@nandaandm asked you to his house!! Thank goodness you didn't go.

[Frlrlrubert]

I met DH on POF 10 years ago. He was the only POF date I went on. You do have to wade through the messages from weirdos though!

[midnightstar66]

I signed up to bumble and it seemed promising at first but once you've swiped left they are gone forever and it doesn't take long to get through them all. You have no choice but to make the first move and if you match you only get 24 hours to do so before they are go s too. All a bit pushy for my liking. If bumble were a man I'd be seeing red flags and giving a wide swerve 😆. Can't bring myself to pay!

[nandaandm]

Just signed to for bumble. Everyone seems so better looking than POF... 😂 did bumble users subscribe for the paid plan? And did they make first move? X

[nandaandm]

I've had a few conversations, I haven't had any dick pics yet so all good 😂 had a really good interaction with someone local but when he asked me out it was to his house so I've let that one be. There's a lot of pics where their dogs are licking their faces or their putting their fingers up in their profile pics.... I'll keep on going as so many seem to have had success..but I'll be keeping my wits about me. Thanks for all your replies XX

[Notrightbutok]

I had POF, met 2 OK guys but like others said so many to weed out. Met DP on Bumble, we matched the first day I joined, went on a date that evening now been dating for almost 8 months and it's love.

[Welshgal85]

I met my partner on there, been with him 5 years now.

[Livpool]

I met DH on POF.

I also met many losers - but met them in RL too

[OhioOhioOhio]

hiccupsical has good advice.

[ChocolateCrunchies]

Met my fiancee on POF

Sister met her fiance of POF too

I didnt have any awful experiences

[incognitomum]

I met dh on POF. Met some weirdos and one stalker first. I rejoined without a pic after stalker and messaged dh with a pic in message. Been together nearly 12 years and still smitten.

[Geometricprince]

I met my now DH on POF 10 years ago. I was very lucky (or not fussy ) as he was actually the first guy I met irl from there.
A good friend of mine joined POF about a year, we did have a lot of laughs about some of the messages she received but she's met a truly lovely guy and they've been together about 9 months now.

[coronaway]

All the men on POF are very unattractive I find. Not for me.

[paris1994]

Pof is good
Have to go through a load of time wasters though but there are some nice men on there

[QwertyZXY]

Deleted POF after a couple of despondent weeks

[badgerread]

I'm 48 and met my partner on POF 8 years ago in September 😊

[midnightstar66]

I've just had a look at bumble out if interest and once I narrowed the search to a 25 mile radius it said There's no one available. I live in a city so find that hard to believe

[HarrietOh]

I dated men on Tinder. Bumble and POF for 4 years. POF I spent most of the time deleting messgaes - could tell mostly just from the pictures not to even bother opening them. I was about to delete it again one day, when a face appeared along the bottom I thought looked nice. We've now been together over a year.

It takes a lot of luck!!

[anotherdisaster]

You will get different stories from different people. I have dated a couple of guys I met on POF (none of them worked out) but Tinder and Bumble I found a complete waste of time. Others may say the opposite.
I think you just have to give them all a try and see for yourself.

[Hiccupiscal]

I met a man on POF who had a relationship with me spanning a few months. All the "I love yous" etc.
One night he went downstairs whilst i was asleep. Stole my laptop, phone and snuck out the backdoor. Never to be seen again. He was known to the police and had form for it.

My met a man on POF and theyre happily married with a DC now.

Sometimes it works, sometimes its doesnt. Ive known more failures than success however.

Keep your wits about you, trust noone. Make sure that they give you more time than you give them, and if anything feels wrong. Dont do it. Dont continue.

Always see where they live, passport/driving licence, proof of address etc if it starts to progress, Might seem OTT but I learned the hard way. When I met my DP (not through OLD) I had him send me a copy of his license, DOB etc.

Always tell someone who youre meeting, when and where. Send your friend a photo of said man before you meet.

Good luck and stay safe.

[B1rdflyinghigh]

POF is hideous. Too many married men, scammers and catfish. I have a POF account, but I'm incognito. I much prefer Bumble or Tinder.

[PeartreeProductions]

Go for it. I know a few people who meet their partners there.
@Nat6999 that was a lovely story about how you met your partner, sorry for your loss.