Anyone believe in love at first sight?

[fairytaleoflondontown]

Hi Mumsnetters
I have name changed as I can't believe I'm writing this.
I'm in my 40s & have had some turbulent relationships.
Happily single with a DD & not wanting any man to get in the way right now...
An old work colleague from over a decade ago tracked me down on social media. I vaguely remembered him but we worked in different departments.
Got chatting. Lots of banter.
Met up last night.
Walked into the bar & I just looked at him & got this very strange feeling.
Felt so comfortable, confident & we had such a laugh.
Out til 1am, kissed a few times (he made the first move which was nice)
Can't stop thinking about him today.
That feeling I got in the bar was like nothing I've felt before.
It was a bit like ... Euphoria!
I might sound a bit bonkers.
Anyone else had similar?

[NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5]

Love these stories

[YouCantArgueWithStupid]

With my now DH I saw him across the club and immediately thought “yep, that’s him!” He came over and chatted to me soon after. His best friend told me a few weeks ago that now DH told him on the night bus home that I was “the one”. DH doesn’t discuss emotions so everyone was pretty surprised when the told them all he’d fallen in love.

Ten years in he was right. I don’t know if it was love or just maybe I knew he’d be very important to me!

[Farontothemaddingcrowd]

No I don't. How can you love someone you don't know? Lust can feel very very intense and many people mistake it for love in the early stages. You only know which it is because love endures.

[CowPatRoberts]

Oh I'm so sorry!!

[Lunalovepud]

Not love per se but connection for sure. I was a very cynical person about love and relationships but I knew as soon as I met DH we'd get married... Just knew instantly that he was the one for me. 7 years and 2 kids later and I love him more than ever. Brilliant husband, amazing father - we're very happy.

[Bachingupthewrongtree]

Yes, absolutely. He was a work colleague and I knew when we were introduced that he was 'The One'. We were engaged on the third date (he wanted to ask me on the first date, but thought it was too soon - I would have said yes!), married a few months later, together over 31 years and have three DC.

I agree with those who say it wasn't just lust, it was something much deeper than that, a feeling of connection and of certainty.

[LellyMcKelly]

Gluteus makes a good point. I'd been texting my now DP for about 5 weeks before we met (we met on a dating website). It was the summer and I was away for a few weeks then he was away, etc. but we ended up texting a lot. He sounded funny, and kind, and nerdy. And when we finally met, it was like the last jigsaw piece was slotting into place. There was no drama, just feeling thrilled,.

[gluteustothemaximus]

Yes, I believe in having an instant connection at first sight.

I spoke to DH before we met. On the phone we connected immediately. Lots of laughing, flirting, so unlike either of us really.

Then we met, and it was just BAM. Nothing I’d ever felt. Not lust. Not love really, just, oh my god...this feels so special, and so right.

And nearly 10 years later it’s still bloody fantastic. He is (ready for the sick bucket) my best friend. And I’d be lost without him 😍

[NYConcreteJungle]

Infatuation, lust and compatible genes, that turns into love. I have experienced this, sometimes it works out sometimes it doesn't.

[Carouselfish]

I met someone and told my friend afterwards that I'd met my soulmate. it was like a jigsaw piece fitting. It was mutual - that's what makes it special.
We had four years together and circumstance blew us apart. 8 years on he's now married to someone else. So...
Even if you get that very rare, one in a million, lightening bolt, it's no guarantee of a happy ending.

[honeyroar]

It's lust! If you're lucky everything works out and everything else fits together and it does turn into love. But seriously, how can it possibly be love straight away when you don't even know them or much about them? I've had that "if I don't marry this one I won't be marrying anyone" feeling before. I didn't marry him! He is my good friend now, but it would never have worked out as a relationship.

Anyway OP, whatever it is you're enjoying it, and that's good. But don't go rushing ahead, keep your feet on the ground and your eyes open too. best of luck at it does work out.

[shuggas]

Me and hubby met in a pub. He caught my eye and I knew I just had to speak to him before the end of the night. He felt exactly the same. It’s so cheesy but 18 years later he is my soulmate x

[MagicFajita]

Not love at first sight (you need to know someone to truly love them and that takes time) but I think you can have an overwhelmingly positive reaction to a person and feel instantly comfortable with them. If you are attracted to them too then it could be confused with "love at first sight" I suppose.

[LolDollSurprise]

I think it's a connection of compatible genes redforfilth

[fairytaleoflondontown]

cowpat
Have you got the right thread?

[CowPatRoberts]

If he loves driving so much can't he just pretend he's Lewis Hamilton for 24 sodding hours??

Joking aside, he sounds like a total horror OP and you deserve so much better.

[RedForFilth]

How can you love someone without knowing anything about them other than what they look like? They might be a racist, misogynistic pig! I think if you end up with the person you "loved" at first sight it's just pure coincidence.
It's lust.

[Gre8scott]

I do i saw my first bf weeks before i acttually met him and knew if i met him wed get togther and we did for 2.5 years and when i went to my new workmy boss showed me round then someone said thats his gf i thought wait im going to marry him.i did.

[Robinkitty]

it was love at first sight for me, been with dh 17 years now. I didn't set out to meet anyone that night but I'll never forget that first moment I saw him. I do suffer with bad facial regognition however and dh has a distinctive face so I think that might have something to do with it. He just stood out in a good way in the sea of other faces

[EastMidsGPs]

I didn't. Had been married and divorced was so much what jaded and cynical about relationships.

And at our first meeting he didn't impress me much.
We then spent a day in the countryside together and it felt like I'd known him forever. He instantly understood me

Went back to his, never left, we married 9 weeks later.
Celebrated 30 years this year.
That's not to say it has been plain sailing - we are so different that we've both had to learn communication, consultation and compromise along the way ... however, still melt at his voice and accent

[Shayelle]

100% yes!

Some lovely stories on this thread 💕

[Goshthatwentwell]

Absolutely. It's a feeling of just knowing just by seeing them However I also have known it won't work p/ make me happy/ be part of the plan.
Has happened twice to me twice.

But you already knew yours...perhaps not the same thing?

[JustWonderingZ]

It has always been instant with me, even before the guy could open his mouth. Literally at first sight, within the first few seconds. The feeling never betrayed and I went to have strong feelings for those people.

Was the same with my DH. Although we absolutely did not know each other, I instantly felt at home, completely relaxed, felt I could trust him down to the last bit and be myself with him, without trying to appear better than I am. He is my best friend and my closest person, after my Dad. I only got more and more pleasantly surprised as I got to know him. He still surprises me in a good way. But I could see it then in the first few instants. My opinion never changed.

People told DH he was ‘besotted’ with me and it was just a strong infatuation, that it was a spell from which he will eventually come to his senses. Nobody could believe we were getting married within three months of meeting each other and that it could be serious. Well, three children later and 13 years together, it is still there.

I believe we do connect on some other level with people, before actual words are said and ‘hard facts’ are obtained through experience. OP, enjoy the moment and trust your gut feeling.

[Sadlady77]

Yes I do. When I met my ex I felt something instantly - I was only 17 so it was hard to describe. We didn't get together for another 5 years as I was going out with someone. We did split up but whenever we see each I can feel this intense connection, he says he feels it as well.

Sadly we have never made it work - but the emotion I feel when I see him completely overwhelms me.

[BitOutOfPractice]

The right man for me