Can i keep my title and surname after marriage

[butterfly92]

After marriage can I still keep my title as miss and also keep my maiden surname? I dont want to change either of them i still want to be referred to as miss (my last name).

[EdithSitwell]

I use both maiden name and married name. Married name professionally, maiden name in every other area of my life. No problems.

[Blu]

Op: in the U.K. you can also give your children the surname of your choice: your name, other parent's name, both, a blended name or a new name.

[RaspberryOverloadTheFirst]

And yet, I went into my bank (Nat West) and changed my title with absolutely no trouble at all. No certificate required, just presented my bank card as proof of ID and it was done there and then. I have had some issues with this bank, but they got this bit right.

[Boolovessulley]

Yes.

[Kr1stina]

And while we are on the subject of pointless bloody bureaucracy and bloody mindedness at banks....

I'd like to give a big shout out to the Nationwide < waves >

Who wouldn't change the name on the children's saving account of my adopted daughter, even though I had an adoption certificate ( effectively her new birth certificate ) and passport .

Because apparently they only accept marriage certificates and deed polls as proof of change of name . Oh and they also wanted a utility bill or council tax bill in HER name ( she was 8 years old) .

Problem solved by closing the account. And those of her 4 siblings.

[Kr1stina]

Ive had a few cheques from a very elderly relative written to Kristina HisSurname , for the children's Christmas . My bank will let me pay them in as they've a copy of my marriage certificate on file. Well done HSBC.

If it had been anyone else except this 90 yo uncle I would have politely explained that I couldn't cash it as it wasn't my name. I think most people understand that you have to have the correct name on a crossed cheque.

[MistresssIggi]

Bank of Scotland. It just seems madness to annoy your customers in this way!

[soupmaker]

My bank wasn't having any of it Mistress. Had to change my name on the account or no pay-in. Yours sounds much more 21st century.

[MistresssIggi]

I thought it was the bank not accepting the title change that was the problem - the can't not accept a title on a new account without ID, a title isn't part of your identity in way that name is.
I brought a copy of my marriage certificate in to the bank, they copied it and put a note on my file so that when I get the odd cheque to my (theoretical) married name I can still pay it in.

[soupmaker]

Mistress how exactly is the banking problem solved by closing down an account in my name and opening another? You can't open up a bank account without copious amounts of ID these days. There was no way the bank in which we have had a joint account for bloody years would accept a cheque written out to 'Mr & Mrs DH's lastname' even with me waving our marriage certificate at them. Bloody patriarchy.

[anonyAnonymouse]

I'm not sure how it works for civil partnerships, I presume as legally they are very new compared to the law for marriage that it might be more equal.
I don't have any links. I know the information about marriage name change as this is what the registrar informed us , and my now STBXH having to go through name change at the time before the actual marriage as it couldn't be done as part of the actual legal marriage (unlike if he was the woman). He did it just before then had to put on the marriage certificate " Mr X Anonymouse (previously know as Mr X Other)"

In my case I wish STBXH didn't have my name now, but that's for a different thread

[MistresssIggi]

The banking one is solved by closing your account and taking out a new one somewhere else.
Christmas always reminds me how many of my relatives believe I have changed my name despite no evidence anywhere of this (and more on my side than his, strangely!)

[Kr1stina]

Kr1stina and Livia Its England (not sure of Scotland)

This is news to me! Could you please link to the relevant legislation, so I can show it to my husband ?

How does it work for civil partnerships ?

[Hobbitch]

I kept my maiden name and we double-barrelled our son's surname. People assume my husband shares my name . My only gripe is my BIL refers to both me and my son under my husband's surname.

[anonyAnonymouse]

Livia I think it was more that I was removing the Mrs not that I was moving to either Ms or Miss

[anonyAnonymouse]

Kr1stina and Livia Its England (not sure of Scotland).
Yep in banking terms my bank is quite new so I thought they would run like a bank in this century, but it seems not.

[LiviaDrusillaAugusta]

I wanted to move from Mrs to Ms but the bank wouldn't do it until I sent a copy of the divorce certificate

Are you in the U.K.? That seems a little odd of them - Ms doesn't necessarily mean divorced! I use Ms and I have never been married, and nobody has questioned it.

[aretheyhavingalaff]

akakk - I should be in trouble then. Any company giving me the stupid option of picking a title which includes Dame, Lady, Princess etc will have me being one of these (airline companies are the worst). I recently had a problem with a Habitat order and they continually called me Reverend.

It's ridiculous!

[Kr1stina]

Ah, for a woman to change or not to change when she gets married is easy. The name change is part of the marriage IF it is wanted.If the man wants to change name there is no provision to change name as part of the marriage, it has to be done just before or just after

What country is this is please ?

[Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g]

When I was a tiny girl, I remember saying to my mother that when I got married I thought I would choose Seymour as my new surname. It then emerged that I'd got completely the wrong end of the stick about name changes on marriage. I thought the happy couple would choose a new surname for themselves. I still think that would be a good system.

[anonyAnonymouse]

Ah, for a woman to change or not to change when she gets married is easy. The name change is part of the marriage IF it is wanted.
If the man wants to change name there is no provision to change name as part of the marriage, it has to be done just before or just after.

If things don't work out and the woman did change her name and title, some companies (one bank I know of) will only change the name and title if given proof of divorce.

Just because you can legally change a name by use to make it official, so many companies do not recognise it and make up their own rules that you have to adhere to.
I wanted to move from Mrs to Ms but the bank wouldn't do it until I sent a copy of the divorce certificate.

[GnomeDePlume]

As others have said, you can change or not.

I finally changed my name after having been married for nearly 20 years. When I finally got round to it I found that it mattered far less than I imagined.

[DownAmongtheElves]

Bertrand and Kr1stina

[Kr1stina]

Harcore, yes I'm afraid he is. I don't know why , I help him out around the house and sometimes I even take the kids out on a Saturday to let him catch up with the housework . Im very supportive of him having a little job just as long as standards don't drop.

He's been very grumpy over Christmas even gave up some of my free time to help him wrap gifts . Do you think I should get him a spa day ? I'm sure my MIL would come over and watch the kids one Saturday for him.

[Reality16]

Yes. My ex wife is. She doesn't like her maiden name. Plus I guess she wants to keep the safe name as the k. As for keeping the title. Personally why not? Call your self what ever you like. But why? Are you still of the school of thought that you'll get more respect as a Mrs instead of a Miss or Ms?. You have completely misread the OP. It is talking about keeping a maiden name after getting married, not keeping a married name and title after a divorce/separation.

Yes OP you can call yourself whatever you like.