Does this sound suspicious?

[Hadenough72]

My partner plays football on a Sunday.
We recently had a baby boy..
I was always stuck at home pregnant and we never did anything together so I've been so fed up..

He kept telling me to watch him play football. But I wasn't well through pregnancy so I didn't fancy standing at the side of a pitch and going to the pub afterwards.
He has only just started playing this year.
The rest of the teams partners go and watch.

Now I'm not pregnant I decided I'd surprise and support him even though he hasn't been supportive of me.

I asked my mum to have the baby one Sunday so I could watch him play.

Then I told him I'll tag along all excited.
He said
" Oh well I'm not sure you can, there won't be any room in the car as some of the lads girlfriends are already joining us. But you won't want to stand and watch anyway will you? Sorry baby"

That felt like a punch in the gut. Does it sound like he's hiding something.
I'm starting to believe he only asked me before to shut me up.. Knowing I technically can't go.
Why wouldn't he want me there..
There was always room up until today. I don't get it. He never includes me in anything and we are supposed to be getting married.
I only did it to support him

[Chloeneedshelp]

It is expected where me and my other half work that we would take the baby in however I do understand this may not be the case at all places. I think he likes you or he'd have left? But I think you're just stuck in a rut where he's walking over you. Like holly90 said.. Shake him up a bit. Make him realise what he's got and you won't be treated like this or you'll leave.

[Teepish]

As someone pointed out a couple of posts previously, it seems I wasnt far off sadly.

[Montane50]

Teepish, sorry you've had a bad experience but maybe best not projecting on this thread. Hope your situation has improved

[WamBamThankYouMaam]

It really isn't the norm for everyone to bring their baby into work, even less so for their partner to bring their baby into their work. Different workplaces have different norms. It's not the done thing where I am.

[Teepish]

Montane Im sorry for the bluntness but his behaviour is reminiscent of my abusive H.

[twattymctwatterson]

Op you've posted about him recently haven't you? He's an abusive twat which was pointed out to you on your other thread. You'll find your confidence really improves when you get rid

[YoHoHoandabottleofTequila]

He doesn't sound very nice.

[Montane50]

Teepish...wtaf its advice like that that makes me wonder about mumsnet so times! How can you say he doesn't like op?
We've had a few snippets of a slightly random story so its not possible to make that statement.
Op, if you want to go to the footie? Go to the footie. It sounds like you don't trust him so is there more background info to it?

[Teepish]

He has no respect for you at all and doesnt like you.

[noego]

Why do you need his permission? If you want to watch him play footie, just go along.........
Small breasts comment was uncalled for.......Small boobs are lovely......

[Holly90]

I'd start with the 'threatening packing' option, he's lost respect for by the sounds of it. Needs a firm reminder of what he has and it could all be lost just as quickly. Shake him up a bit. Sounds like he has you where he wants you.

[Alfiemoon1]

I wouldn't mention it again and turn up in a taxi

[Happybunny19]

I took all three babies into my dps office. His colleagues met them before mine did. It was lovely to see him so proud and showing them off.

The boob comment was plain bloody stupid. Is he generally a foot in mouth arse? I imagine he thought he was being hilarious?!

Do you go out together at all? Staying home with lo can make you feel terribly isolated and men just don't understand a lot of the time. Have you explained that to him? My usually very understanding dp has trouble understanding my desire to go out together, as he's more comfortable staying in for cosy evenings together. I'm happy like that too the majority of the time, but have reminded him a number of times recently that it's been about a year and a half since our last evening out alone.

[hellsbellsmelons]

Well he sounds like a real gem!?
Do you want to be treated like this for next 20+ years?
I'm urging you to really look at this relationship.
What it does for you?
Does he make you feel good about yourself?
Does he support you in everything you do?
Does he make you feel loved and cherished?
From what you have written I would suggest the answer to all of these is a big fat NO!!!
Don't tie yourself to this half life.
You get one shot at this.
Live your life the best you can.
Do NOT settle!!!!

Please have a read through of THIS THREAD

[Joysmum]

Why wouldn't a father want to introduce his baby to his colegues? My DH did and by default that meant I went in too very much as a spare part whilst he showed her off! It was so cute. All their team have done it as they've had kids.

[YvaineStormhold]

Why do people put up with this sort of behaviour?

He sounds absolutely rubbish on every level. Literally nothing you have posted about this man makes him sound in any way a nice person or a good partner.

I'm very liberal with my 'ltb's in here, and here comes another one...

LTB.

[Chloeneedshelp]

I took our baby son to meet my other halfs work. Don't understand why you wouldn't... Unless it was a factory and dangerous or something similar...

[Simonneilsbeard]

Well what makes him the breastfeeding expert? Honestly he sounds like a dick! Who says that to their pregnant partner?

I think it's very strange that you haven't met his friends also.

[Sweets101]

So usually it's just him, his friend and his friends girlfriend?
If he is getting a lift it might be true that having spoken to thrive lift giver they have already made arrangements to give lift to others this week.
Can he drive? I suppose then he can't drink?

[Hadenough72]

I'd expect him not to invite me along knowing there is no room.

[Hadenough72]

Well actually he was pretty nasty.. He laughed and told me my boobs were too small to breastfeed.
Why is it weird to introduce our baby together? Id say the opposite is weird.
It wasn't that I couldn't be arse it was that I wasn't aloud to stand for long periods because I have a heart condition. I told him
I would love to once the baby arrives

[finnsheart]

He will only behave like this if you let him. Give him a dose his own medicine. Next time he's due to play football, just put your coat on pick up your bag and head out of the door half an hour before he's due to leave. If he asks where you're going, just tell him you've arranged to meet a friend/Mum/dog [insert vague but plausible option here]. He'll soon get he message that not behaving like partners is crap.

Remember you can teach people how to treat you by what you allow and what you stop. Good luck.

[Bluntness100]

To be fair coming to his office to introduce the baby i would see as weird unless it was his company or a very very small company. I've never met any man otherwise where their partners come in and introduce their baby to their work.

Also as the car is full, then simply ask him for a time when it's not?

[BubblingUp]

I think he is lying. He just doesn't want you integrated into his life. Can't go to his work. Can't watch him play. Never met his friends. It's weird. You all don't sound like partners at all.

[whattodowiththepoo]

It's not his car, I'm not sure what you expect him to do?

What on earth do you mean about your boobs? He told you having small boobs is bad? As an insult? Sorry I just can't get my head around why/how someone would say that.