DH is addicted to X (not saying for fear it will out me. It's not sex addiction!)
He will not admit it and therefore will not help himself. He is self destructive. He thinks he is perfectly reasonable and the rest of us are unreasonable for not seeing the world how he sees it when it comes to X. In 24 hours he can change his mind five times about X. It can go from "this is killing me. I am broken, help me feel better." to "I'm going to do it again."
I try and rescue him. He tells me he "just wants to me with me and the kids." I create lovely family days, at his request, when the kids hug him and we all make him feel good, then I feel massively betrayed when that evening he will arise, refreshed, reinvigorated by our love, and will disappear and go back to X.
I don't want to divorce or to leave him. I want to stay married. Most of the destructiveness he keeps to himself. But I don't know what to say to him.
What do you say to an addict to make them realise they are an addict?
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How do I stay married to an addict?
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looking4answers2 · 08/11/2016 23:59
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