Long story short...
My hubby had a Stroke 4 years ago - MH issues prior to that, which saw him in and out of jobs, but MH has deteriorated substantially since the Stroke. Last year and a half, my husband has drank every night (initially), which then turned into everyday (the drinking was becoming earlier in the day).
We lost everything; jobs, home, cars etc and had to move into social housing.
When sober, hubby is nice though emotionless for past 2 years - no affection etc and blames this on his Stroke. However, I've cried my heart out to him and begged on more than one occasion for him to stop drinking and be a family again, to no avail.
He gets extremely verbally aggressive with me when drunk. I took my children out Friday for a bite to eat, came home and he was, as usual, unbelievably verbally aggressive to me - something snapped in me, I decided (not a rash decision by any means) that he had to go. Police were caalled to remove him due to fears re his state of mind (not the first time they've been called), but now, my heart is aching :-(
Am I a horrible person to be leaving this man, who suffers from a myriad of MH issues, and the aftermath of a Stroke to now fend for himself?
I have exceeded all avenues to attempt to help him over the years but he has completely lost himself and has not interacted with our children for a long time now?
I just don't know how long this feeling of anguish will last and me wondering whether I have done the right thing? :-(
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10-year marriage ended, hurting so much - Have I done the right thing?
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ScouseBird8364 · 31/07/2016 14:50
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