Stop me posting PA crap on social media !

[TwilightRabbit]

Please help stop me posting passive aggressive shite on social media!

Just split up with DP - I ended it, but I still love him . He' uses social media massively, whereas I can usually take it or leave it. He's been posting all sorts of crap, including 'meaningful'' life/break up quotes from Johnny Cash, whereas I have maintained a dignified silence .
My fingers are itching to post something though, I don't know why. I'm desperate to post a band I'm listening to, which only he will 'get' .

I am aware how shit, pathetic, teenagery and needy this makes me sound. I am also aware I should ignore and block him. My excuse is that I'm heartsore.

Help me keep that finger off the 'Post' button!!

[MadeMan]

If you were to knit a lifelike voodoo doll of him and then skewer it through the crotch with a knitting needle, you could perhaps post up a photo of that.

[TwilightRabbit]

Lois it was literally a picture of my knitting and saying spot the mistake - really dull ! Thank you for the flowers!

And Slow that's it isn't it? It just wasn't enough :(

[Slowdecrease]

What's so wrong with looking like a twat anyway....I say do what you need to

[Fairylea]

I posted a load of crap when I went through a difficult breakup. I don't regret any of it, sure I probably made a twat of myself but it felt good to get it out there! Everyone is a massive twat when they're in love anyway, I honestly think sometimes if it makes you feel better you should just do it!

[Slowdecrease]

If it's any consolation OP, they rarely do, you're not alone. Love is all very nice but its not enough. Hey what about something like that? That totally works!!

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

Oh what did you post? 'hey I just dropped a useless stitch'?. Can you be a passive aggressive knitter? You'll get over him op.

[TwilightRabbit]

Oh my word, don't worry I won't post it lol! Not a cat in hell's chance!

And I finished it for a myriad of reasons, not because I don't love him. The fact that he didn't want to discuss us, or fight for us is hurtful - he just accepted my ending it (in part because he wouldn't discuss anything).

[BunnyTyler]

I like these two.
Not what you're looking for if you secretly want him to chase you though.

[Slowdecrease]

Why did you finish it if you want him to fight for you? That was a bit daft.

[sonjadog]

Don't post that! That would make every other person who saw it cringe with embarassment on your behalf.

[TwilightRabbit]

Well, I studiously ignored the sensible advice on here not to post...

In fairness, I just put up a photo of my knitting, so hardly very contentious.

I would love to put up a non passive aggressive memey thing ( which I fucking hate) that just said Fight for me you bastard. But I won't, obviously, before anyone says Noooooooooo....

[cbigs]

hellsbells
op one way to think about it is the best revenge is being happy and I sowed prawns in my ex's sofa bed so I can do childish

[Robotgirl]

Sometimes your Knight in shining armour is just an idiot wrapped in tinfoil.

Love this

[TheNaze73]

Don't do it. I don't think anyone reads them stupid quotes & thinks, that's profound. More like, they're sad! Don't cheapen yourself

[Drugsarebad]

Don't do it! . . I've been there and it just becomes more frustrating when you get no reaction!!

my BFs sister is going through a marriage break down and they are both using FB to post quotes about being hurt blah blah blah . . .Whenever I see mutual friends, they always comment at how pathetic it is!!

Be the bigger person :)

[hellsbellsmelons]

Here you go.

Sometimes your Knight in shining armour is just an idiot wrapped in tinfoil.

Never hit a man with glasses. Hit him with a baseball bat

[HoppingForward]

Mine emails. It start of nice but always ends with him "me me me" how he is being sooo amicable and then I get told to go fuck myself.

I so need to stop engaging with him!

[Sweetandsour93]

It's so tempting! I used to tweet stuff after I finished with my ex, just in case he'd see but now I just post things I enjoy. Why not go on a nice day out somewhere and put up the pictures of you having fun? It's not PA but it might make you feel better.

[Teaandcakeat8]

You should just block him. You'll get over it much faster when you don't know what he's up to.

[TwilightRabbit]

Such diverse opinions! He's not on Facebook so at least that's my 'safe space' where I can say what the hell i like. I like the idea of 'only me' posts !!

It's Instagram and Twitter that we''re both on. I'm tempted to post but make sure it's not even relevant to him whatsoever - so incredibly PA !

[cleowasmycat]

No point being grown up. Get it out of your system!!

[SoThatHappened]

I do it. I do it all the time. When I see a meme or a shit link that sums up how I feel.

The difference is my ex isnt my friend on fb and never was. Also I adjust the privacy settings on my posts to "only me".

So when I post the crap I want to post about love lost, only I can see those posts. I wouldnt inflict it on my friends

[Robotgirl]

No, Mademan. He wasn't crying into his sausages.
OP, hope you're ok & can resist looking at Facebook & that you have loads of support in RL.

[MadeMan]

"The day after we split, he'd put a photo of his breakfast on there & made some comment about it being a great day. Made me so angry I blocked him & then deleted Facebook all together."

Yeah he was probably crying into his fried sausages right after he took that photo.

Seems there's quite a few "don't treat me like crap" type FB groups that people suddenly and very publically join straight after breaking up with someone as well.

[Robotgirl]

De-friend this man!
Seeeeriouslyyyyyyyyyy
Two years ago I broke up with my ex. The day after we split, he'd put a photo of his breakfast on there & made some comment about it being a great day. Made me so angry I blocked him & then deleted Facebook all together. And now I have loads more free time apart from when I'm lurking on Mumsnet