Do I just end it all?

[stressedbutblessed15]

My ex and I broke up in August after I found out he was a liar and he ended it with me very cruelly.
The problem is my best friend is his sister.
I think I need to end our friendship.
Last night she had a New Years party and I wasn't invited(he was there with new gf) I sat home alone.
She didn't speak at all no New Years text or anything.
I feel like a outcast now.
She mentions him all the time how he has moved on etc how he has lost weight.
Almost as if she is rubbing my nose in it.
She hated us being together.
She didn't invite me to a Halloween party as he was there.
Monday we were going for lunch and I was heading to her place and she said I had to stand on the corner in the rain as he was in her house and it would be too awkward.

I think I need a clean break from them all.

[Straycatblue]

I think probably you do need to move on from this friendship as it sounds like it is damaging you.

Constantly mentioning him and his weight loss etc to you is not very kind/sensitive and the comments about people crashing their cars are just toxic.

However, regarding her parties and not inviting you because her brother is there, I dont think you are being fair to her, it did not end amicably between you two and of course her loyalty is going to be to her family.

If you look at it objectively, it would be kind of a weird dynamic to have your siblings ex at a family party when it didnt end well and he is there with his new partner and everyone just wants to have a nice time with no drama or awkwardness.

Be kind to yourself, delete, block, or unfollow on facebook if her posts are only bringing you down. Its time to distance yourself from this family, and like others have said, its not about showing him what he's missing, that just makes it sound like you are still hung up on him and are pining over him and their family parties.

[Goingtobeawesome]

Like incest? What a bitch. And I agree regarding the hair, only change it if you want too and not because you want his attention. Don't cheapen yourself.

[Suddenlyseymour]

......and please keep the brunette. You are fine as you are - dark roots are not a good look. Best revenge is to live well and be happy. Keep your dignity at all times - don't let her get your back up, block her and his numbers and move on.

[MatildaTheCat]

And stop the 'Show him what he's missing' for your own sake.

Over is over.

[MatildaTheCat]

Blimey, with friends like that who needs enemies? Seriously, dump her and move on swiftly. Otherwise how much longer will you be hanging around waiting for her to be nice?

In the nicest way just recognise this is over and stop any kind of contact. No text, no FB, nothing. It will be a relief for both of you. Then pick up the phone and get socialising with your other friends who, I hope are nicer people than this individual.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Good on you.

[stressedbutblessed15]

Yep going to just get rid of both.
Starting new year new start.
Going to get my hair done from brunette to blonde..show him what he is missing ha ha.

[magoria]

Well it seems a little like brother like sister.

He was a vile shit to you. She is being a vile shit to you.

Sack them both off and don't give either another thought.

[stressedbutblessed15]

I'm 26.
Yes I have 2 other close friends and other friends I socialise with.
She is quite bitter and sometimes that rubs off on me.
For example if her neighbour gets a new car she will say "how does that afford a new car,hope she crashes it,she's fat anyway etc etc
It can be draining.

[lampshady]

She's sounds awful. Ditch and be happier for it.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Well that's just ridiculous. Do you have other close friends, how old are you?

[stressedbutblessed15]

I think she thought she would loose me to Him.
Now that it's over she's pleased but I've seen her true colours too.

[HolgerDanske]

Sorry, this person is/was your best friend? She doesn't sound as if she's a nice person at all.

You can find a much better best friend than that

Time to move on, forget them both.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Well in that case you are better off without. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that in the first place.

[stressedbutblessed15]

When we first said we liked each other years ago she tried to stir trouble saying I said this he said that.
Tried to stop us running into each other.
Told him it was like incest.
Then now she is saying he is so happy,he has bought her a lovely present.
Happier than he has ever been etc

[loveyoutothemoon]

Why would you keep dropping hints? In what way has she gloated?

[Goingtobeawesome]

How can she have been your best friends if she hated you being with her brother? She's no friend now, rubbing it in about his new situation.

[stressedbutblessed15]

I honestly don't think I am.
She only asked as I kept dropping hints.
She has done nothing but gloat since we broke up.

[loveyoutothemoon]

At least she asked you and was seemingly bothered. I would've wished her a HNY. I think maybe you are over thinking this?

[stressedbutblessed15]

Yes posting on Facebook.
Getting ready for party with friends and family.
She told me and said so what's your plans new year so I said I take it I'm not invited and she just laughed.

[loveyoutothemoon]

Can you not keep your friendship separate? I can understand not wanting the pair of you in the same house. How did you know that she was going to have the party-Facebook?

[Tutt]

*fell not feel bloody autoshite!

[Tutt]

I'm married to my (what was) best friends brother, our friendship has suffered badly, this was because my husband and I feel out and he decided to confide in her, she obviously took his side.

Sad as it is but they will take their siblings side, mine was a 40 year friendship but I respect that she took sides and now have distanced myself.

It's horrible OP but you have to do what is best for you and being friends with her soons painful and detrimental to you.

[stressedbutblessed15]

No I didn't as she didn't invite me or acknowledge me.
I thought stuff her.

[stressedbutblessed15]

It hurts as I've been a good friend to her.
Lent her money,took her on holiday,been there through her miscarriage.
I kind of feel disappointed at how she has made me feel bad.
Is it so bad of me to think she should of still invited me and just dealt with the awkwardness rather than knowing I'm home alone upset.
I don't give a shit about Him now,I know he is vile but I expected better from her.