Hello, I am going through a similar situation. I have two grown Sons from a previous marriage and he has two Daughters, all of them grown. My Sons are on their own and do not interfere with our relationship. His two Daughters are on their own as well. The youngest Daughter has always been a sweetheart to me and very excepting if me. The older Daughter treats me with disrespect. At times she will be pleasant to me but doesn't feel sincere or heartfelt to me. She has been needy at times of her Dad's affections, wanting to have time alone with him without me around. We have been living together 5 years now and nothing has changed. He told me twice now that his Daughters will always be first before me, and that hurts me. I also left a nice home, uprooted and moved to another state to be with him. We had known eachother for many years before our relationship began, but now I feel like I don't know him at all. She once told her Dad that I am not her Mother and she doesn't want advice from me. I once gave her some friendly advice when she was getting a new, first time puppy. A breed that I once had and knew could be a handful. My advice upset her and she complained to her Mom and Dad that I had no right to give her advice. Her Mother actually told her she felt I meant no harm and was just trying to help. Her Dad only told me to not give her advice anymore. He pretty much told me not to say anything to her anymore. He seems to tiptoe around her feelings and never takes my feelings into account. He also has many photos of her around our house. She gives him framed photos of the two of them every, Christmas, Birthday and Fathers Day. When we got engaged 3 years ago, and shortly after our engagement her Mom was in town visiting and this Dauggter asked to have dinner with her parents. She asked that I not come. The dinner plans never happened for one, because he had no interest in having dinner with his now ex wife, and I expressed my feelings about it. This Daughter is 27 years old but I feel like I'm dealing with a child. She has her Dad wrapped around her finger. I most definitely feel like a 5th wheel when it concerns her. As I mentioned we have been engaged 3 years now but have not set a date. His Mother has asked several times when we are getting married but we never seem to have that answer for her. I have thought many times about leaving because I feel our situation is not healthy. He refuses to talk with his Daughter about her feelings towards me. His younger Daughter once said after a situation with his oldest Daughter "I love my Dad dearly, but he doesn't have your back!" She said she would never be with someone who doesn't have her back. I feel I should leave but at 59 years old, I have no place to go. At my age I certainly don't want to impose on a sibling or my Sons who have full busy lives. My oldest is married with kids and my youngest Son is living on his own and still putting himself through college. Rent today is so expensive. But I know I need to figure something out because after 5 years in this relationship I am sad to say i don't think the wedding date will ever get set. I am emotionally exhausted. I'm curious to know what is going on today with you Blueskybluesky. You first wrote in 2015 and it is now 2021. I think it was smart of you to have your own place. I should've done the same because I now feel dependent on this man whom I love but obviously does not put me first nor at the same level of importance to his kids. Thank you all for listening.