OK - so, all this cloak and dagger stuff is not my style, and DH is not really the type to empty bank accounts and leave me and the kids financially bereft.
AnyFucker I like you and your style, however, I will not apologise for handling this to my schedule and not yours. However, if this IS still going by Christmas, you can come over and kick my ass! And for the record, A party will take this week to organise - I work during the day, and have Wednesday evening out at the theatre with the girls, so that leaves me with not many evenings to make a huge pile of cupcakes, fill a shed-load of party bags, and buy and make the food.
Quite the reason we don't have sex is long. It started probably after we had DS 16 years ago - he was early and it was all very traumatic and DH did not cope well. It also took me a while to get to the point where I thought it would be nice to get to together again, and then realised that he wasn't keen. There followed many years of me alternately leaving be, and pushing for a resolution, neither option being very successful. Mixed in was the realisation that all was not right with DS, and his subsequent diagnosis with AS, and DH going through hard times with the business he had set up. Things improved very slightly before DD was conceived, even though that was a nigh on miracle of timing, just before my 40th. And nothing since, and she is now 5. When she was 3 I found out he had been having an affair since before she was born. This ended in nasty circumstances, and I stood by him and took him back, with promises of us getting back and closer,but nothing happened. Probably because this OW was on the scene.
Some of the issues for DH probably also started in childhood for various reasons, and he has had a significant amount of counselling, but I do realise this is no excuse.
This is just a snapshot in an nutshell, but hopefully gives you some background. I have held back from posting in the past due to how complicated this all seems, so please bear with me.