Last few months I've made a new friend.
I was in very difficult straits at the time, and she has really helped me. So, first of all, I am very grateful.
However. I also notice that I find her rather clingy, texting, phoning and wanting to meet up, and not letting there be a break before I suggest something by return. We also don't have much in common in terms of interests and after a while of meeting up, I run out of things to talk about (very unusual for me!). I also find I don't now tell her any of my "plans" because she seems to find ways of inviting herself (pushy), which makes conversation even more restricted!
I like her in some ways and would be happy to remain friends on a more distant basis, but I really need to find a way to distance myself, without hurting her feelings or creating bad feeling. I've never really had a clingy friend like this before, and its making me feel very uncomfortable. Because she was so helpful, I'm finding it especially hard. But realise I need to start to do this consciously from now on.
I've tried waiting longer between answering her messages and texts as I have heard this works. Also make excuses why I can't see her, so there are longer gaps.
But any further ideas from people?
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How to deal with a clingy friend.
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SuperTooToo · 25/11/2014 21:32
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