How does your DP act when you have your period?

[googoodolly]

I'm just curious, really!

[feelingquitelost]

I actually can't remember, still haven't had any since dd2 was born 9 months ago so 18 months since I had one. Before that I only had them a few months after dd1 was born before I was pregnant again. In fact most of our 3 year marriage I have been without periods. How strange.

[FlankShaftMcWap]

DH is a sweetie when I'm on, send him out for san pro and he comes home waving tampax pearl "I thought you'd like the smoother applicator" He also brings gin, peanut butter cups and pastries. With a side of ibuprofen. I Luffs him.

[OhBabyLilyMunster]

Yes, definitely dustbunny! I think its the hormones, like when you get sensitive teeth when pregnant

[DustBunnyFarmer]

My joints get more achy too, Spork

[DustBunnyFarmer]

Seeing as we are in sharing mood, does anyone else's teeth become ridiculously sensitive in the days before their period? I mentioned this to my dentist once & she was really surprised, had never heard of it before.

[TheSporkforeatingkyriarchy]

Before it would be little different really, though in the last year or so with the premature menopause the few periods I do get are a nightmare (horrible headache for days before and after, my joints hurt a lot more and my mobility is really affected, and it really affects my mood before and during) though even though they're less often and a lot shorter, and he can tell now unlike before (I have had to tell him that while he can now tell it's coming, blaming anything on it is more likely to put me in a worse mood even if done nicely). So now he probably does a bit more and ensures our medicine and snack cabinets are well stocked, but he does that when I have bad flare ups of any type rather than it being specifically a period thing though.

[OrangeMochaFrappucino]

insists? often still enjoyable? That doesn't sound right.

[however]

Oh, look at that. There is no evil smiley.

There should be.

[however]

As he usually does. My behaviour doesn't really change.

I'm always a bitch. [evil]

[WestEast]

Doesn't try to instigate sex as he knows I don't like period sex, he's a bit more patient, let's me chunter on about things and plys me with cups of tea and hob nobs :)

[Chiana]

He sounds like a keeper, Deftones!

I must say, reading this thread is giving me flashbacks to the horrible way my period used to be, with erratic cycles, lots of pain and very heavy flow. Yuck!

[Deftones]

DP treats me as he does usually, although the week lead up he is a little more understanding as I get quite up and down mood wise.

We don't have sex during my period because my flow is ridiculously heavy and it would be pointless as I'd be too soaked for him or me to enjoy. If it were lighter, sure we'd crack on.

my DP is super all round

[CheerfulYank]

Same. Unless it's bad, in which case he's extra nice to me, as I am to him when he feels I'll/is in pain.

We have sex if we feel up to it.

[lauranorder50]

My husband is nice to me because my periods have got horrendous. So bad that I've been on Transenemic Acid prescription from my doctor for a couple of years now.

I just feel guilty that he's nice to me because getting my period ends my pmt. As I've probably been double the ratbag that I normally am !

I try not to use it as an excuse just to whine and get things when I'm on.

During pmt I have been known to want passionate urgent sex. Then go back to being a cow to live with until my period turns up.

Sex when I've got my period ? Why not if we're both in the mood. There's something primeval about it. I like the mix of bodily fluids inside me. I like to hold on to it. Like I've still got part of him inside me. I feel connected to millions of years of human history at that minute.

[daisychain01]

Dons his hard-hat and retreats to the garden shed for 4 days then I look outside and see a little white hankie on a stick being waved.

I then call him back indoors, we have a cup of and life resumes as normal. Especially if he brings and and a hug.

He's tolerant and cuts me some slack which I feel lucky about because it must be hard for men to really 'get' the complexity of the monthly cycle. They just see us going loopy for a few days a month and wonder What's that all about??

[Chiana]

GothMummy, I wouldn't have sex on my period when I wasn't on the Pill. I am now, so it bothers me less, probably because my periods are quite a lot lighter.

OP, my DH is pretty good. Because my cycle is artificially regular, he knows exactly when it starts. In fact, a few years ago he called to me loudly (down a crowded aisle in a supermarket, mind you), "Chiana, do you have enough tampons at home? Your period starts in 4 days and they're on sale." I nearly killed him for that.

But he's mostly good. If I ask him nicely to scoop the cats' litter tray because I have my period and feel under the weather, he'll do it, even if it's technically my turn.

[GothMummy]

Im really surprised by how many people have sex during their period. Not that I think its wrong, I am just amazed its possible. I have such heavy flow with large clots/flooding and in such pain that there is no way it could happen.
I didnt realise until fairly recently that not everyone suffers like the women in my family do each month!
Damn fibroids.

[Twinklestein]

As normal. I don't get PMT though.

[cheerybear]

No different, he is a very caring and gentle man by nature so he doen't need to treat me any kinder (in case I cry) than he normally does. I also like sex during my period, although I would be happy to have sex all the tme, but my hubby can't keep up haha

[mumtosome61]

I'm also a bloody and hormonal mess during periods - I didn't have them properly for a decade after ED/PCOS and they are still a bit erratic; as a result each time I have them it's almost as if I forget how bad they can be. I have horrendous PMT which really alters my mental state so he usually can tell if it's incoming as my mood dips significantly.

I've never really had a serious relationship whilst ovulating as I was a teen when I first started, so never had to really deal with how a partner dealt with it. He's OK with it - he was with his ex for 9 years who was regular as clockwork and didn't have too much pain/PMT, so he couldn't really understand why I was withering around screaming and crying like Mrs Rochester. He once told me to "man up" (as a joke) and never, ever said it again!

He wouldn't be overjoyed at getting sanitary products (and wouldn't know where to start) but he would, and has done the chocolate/carb run before. We once had sex at the tail end of a period and he said never again - I'm not bothered once it's started to get lighter and definitely wouldn't early flow as it's like a massacre but DP hates the thought of it, which is fine.

[ValerieTheVodkaFairy]

He's brilliant, and very patient. He runs me baths, makes me tea, heats my wheatbag (wheat Bagpuss actually, which he bought for me specially)

I have horrendous, bloody, hormonal rollercoasters of periods, and I can be hard work as a result.

[Staywithme]

He used to bring me hot water bottles and go to the shop to buy my sanitary wear and crisps, chocolate, fizzy orange

[Aussiemum78]

Mine is maddeningly right. If I fight with him or I'm grumpy, it's because "you have your period". Even if he was wrong and I had a reason to be mad I can't win because my vagina is bleeding. How do you out logic that?

Stupid jerk.

[MrsDmitriTippensKrushnic]

Oh and yes, 'insists' is not a good word. If you don't want to have sex, you don't have sex. They have perfectly usable hands I'd imagine.