I've got five siblings, mother and stepfather still living (although apart now as mum has alzheimer's and he ran for the hills when it got bad) and loads of nieces and nephews, cousins and so on about the place. We are a big family and I don't have anything to do with the majority of them.
I'm close to one sister who is my mum's full-time carer, mum herself (although she doesn't know who I am) and there's one niece who turns up periodically - usually when she's had yet another row with her pig of a boyfriend and wants someone to sympathise, although she's barking up the wrong tree with me as I have no sympathy whatsoever. They are both as bad as each other and should have packed it in years ago, but for reasons that are beyond my comprehension she stays with him. So when she sees I'm not going to sit consoling and pitying her she soon disappears, and I don't see her for months until the next big bust up.
As far as the rest of them are concerned I don't see any of them from one year to the next and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. There's been no falling out as such, but I just can't be arsed with it all. You get all the gossip and problems and moaning and groaning, and one talks about the other, gossiping behind each other's backs, and then going off and gossiping about me and my kids to each other, telling them all my business, and everyone's got an opinion about everything and it does my head in.
Then after one particularly stressful family event, it occurred to me that while I might be related by blood, in all other ways I have absolutely nothing in common with these people. Even they weren't relatives, none of them would be friends, or the kind of people I would seek out or want to spend time with.
That might sound a bit harsh but when I realised that and started to withdraw and keep myself to myself, not going to family events etc, not meeting up for Christmas etc. and just not having any contact at all really ... my life changed for the better and is now so much more peaceful, less stressful and just on a more even keel. I'm a single parent, I've got my own (older teens) kids to think about - they still demand a lot of time and attention and with that and working to pay all the bills and keep a roof over our heads I just don't have time for all the family strife.
They all think I'm a stuck up cow .. but I honestly couldn't care less.
Families aren't the be all and end all. They can be a pain in the arse to be frank, and sometimes we are better off without.