side effect of mumsnet

[Iamashambles69]

I have been lurking for a couple of months, but tonight had altercation with dp and stood ground, calmly, but clearly not going to take any of his shite, after said altercation, have discovered I have grown a set! Now, had a set a long time ago, but don't know what to do with them now, what do you do with yours?

[Lambzig]

I was thinking of starting a similar thread. I think Mumsnet has really improved my relationship. It has made me much more assertive about things, we recently had a major work/life balance issue and mumsnet helped me tackle the issue and work it out with DH and gave me a key phrase that really made DH do a u-turn in his thinking. I think it has also made me more appreciative of his good points and more aware of my own failings and good points.

[whitsernam]

Basic side effect of MN is a messier house!! But seriously, I do really wish this had been around 30 years ago, when I most needed it. I have learned so much about human nature and relationships, and even about children with special needs, all from MN. Absolutely brilliant. If all one does is lurk, they can still learn a tonne.

[Walkacrossthesand]

I've learnt so much about abusive relationships. I've even bought a copy of 'why does he do that' - my daughters may need the support of someone who knows about it, one day, although I sincerely hope they don't. And, in my work (health care) the conversations I have with women in abusive relationships, are infinitely better-informed. Thank you MN.

[vandiva]

My DH says I've changed since I started reading mumsnet. And HHO - not for the better.

Mumsnet has helped to realise my worth. Unacceptable behaviour is NO LONGER tolerated and/or ignored.

Thanks girls!

[SeptemberFlowers]

It's certainly helped me, I've learned to be more assertive and the AIBU section definately helps put things in perspective at times.

I too sometimes have had to count to 10 at times and I see what a lovely man I have in my life. No one is perfect and we all have our moments of being unreasonable but I got a good'un.

Love MN

[LizLemongrass]

Assholes everywhere must hate this site. My x used to hate it when I went on here. i'd say his new girlfriend is banned from using mn. Probably banned from any fora. just in case. not just the women's backslapping brigade fora.

[akawisey]

I really really hope this link works. Because this, if you don't have it by now from coming to MN - is a crime against yourself.

[NewtRipley]

MN has made me more assertive in general and in my marriage.

It has made me aware of how lucky I am to have married such a good partner and father

It has taught me what to do in the event of a suspected affair.

It has brought be back to feminism

[handfulofcottonbuds]

akawisey - great tune!

[handfulofcottonbuds]

....and so nice to click on a link on MN that doesn't contain sex aids or intimate body parts

[AnyFucker]

...or whinging about "MN gawn to the dawgs..."

[handfulofcottonbuds]

YES AF!

[AwfulMaureen]

Mn taught me how fucking evil porn is. I had no idea.

[FolkGirl]

MN has helped me to realise just how broken I am and given me the confidence to try and fix it.

Got me through a marriage breakdown.

Taught me about the oil cleansing method (I look so much younger now that someone asked me recently if I was my 15 year old son's older sister. I regularly have people assume I was a teen mum!)

Taught me about 'red flags' and given me the confidence to know that if I'm not happy with something, that's good enough.

How nice people really are/can be. I now have RL friends because of this.

[handfulofcottonbuds]

Can you explain the oil cleansing method folkgirl

[FolkGirl]

Of course

I'm using plain olive oil at the moment but you can use a blend of oils for different purposes. I've used castor oil blended with olive oil too but found the castor oil a little too drying. I believe sweet almond oil is good.

Anyway, pour a small puddle of oil into the palm of you hand, rub your hands together to warm it and massage gently but fully into your skin. It's brilliant. It dissolves make up, including mascara. Leave for around 10-20 mins. Soak a flannel in hot water, squeeze dry and place over your face for around 20 - 30 seconds then wipe excess oil off your skin. Don't scrub. I tend to splash my face with warm water and pat dry. I don't use moisturiser either, just use a few more drops of olive oil. My skin has never been better!

I've been doing it for just over a year.

[handfulofcottonbuds]

Older sister of a 15 year old you say......?

I have some time off work coming up so will give it a go then just in case I end up a greasy, spotty mess

And that is a prime example of why MN is so good! Thanks folkgirl

[RollerCola]

Oh yes, the oil cleansing method is brilliant! I also do it and have had comments on how smooth my skin is.

[FolkGirl]

Well I'm guessing they thought I was the several years old sister, I mean I don't look 18 or anything!!

But a lot of people assume I was 15/16 when I had him. I was 24. So I'm 39 but a lot of people think I'm around 30. The man I'm seeing said the other week that when we met he didn't think I looked my age, and the only reason he believed it was that he couldn't think of a reason why a woman would say they were several years older than they were!

I wouldn't have said this was always the case, until I started doing this my skin felt really dry and was starting to look quite crepey. It really bothered me.

It could be worse I suppose...

[FolkGirl]

It's fab roller.

If more people did it, then there are a lot of people who would stop making a lot of money...

[SauceForTheGander]

MN is brilliant. Helped me grow a backbone and confidence and I've learnt new perspectives on so many issues. I thought I understood so much before but I was just scraping the surface. FWR is a daily education.

I've learnt about parenting special needs DCs and I no longer tolerate any disabilist language - amongst many other things. I've changed because of MN.

I've said it before - if I'd turned to mumsnet 9 years ago when my ExP cheated on me and left me I think I could have saved myself a load of extra heartache. I was on Bounty. I needed some tough love from you lot!

[HeadFullofSteam]

Side effects of Mumsnet

1. My bosoms are firmly contained
   
2. My house is messier due to time spent on MN
   
3. Feeling very lucky with my lot when I see what some people have to suffer.
   
4. A warm fuzzy feeling that complete strangers can be so willing to help others - and so damn funny.
   
5. Affirmation that I am a better parent than I think I am.

[MrsSquirrel]

MN has helped me to support my friend when she was experiencing domestic violence.

Because of what I learned here, I knew how abusers tend to follow a 'script' and could see that her p was following it to the letter.