Things have been building up at home for a while with DP. We have 1 DC and another on the way.
Since I've gone back to work following maternity leave I've really felt that it is still my responsibility to do everything. Cook, clean, childcare and get myself to work. I don't want to paint DP as a complete bad guy because he isn’t. He cooks (not as frequently as he used to) and is very capable of caring for DC (again not as frequently as he used to). I am aware that his work situation is not the healthiest at the moment and has been doing a fair amount of overtime so is tired. What I find difficult though is that most nights when he comes in from work he just wants to chill out, maybe take a nap, eat, smoke, have a drink, play a little with DC and then go to bed. Well I wouldn’t mind some of that lifestyle either but I am a mother and with that comes responsibilities. I finish work, collect DC from nursery, cook, clean/iron and do bedtime routine. So that’s the first issue.
Second issue is that I have a huge problem with how he speaks to me. And this is something that I have only noticed in the last 7 months or so. He talks down to me and treats me as if I’m stupid. I basically don’t feel appreciated or respected and my own self-respect dictates that I can’t live long term with a man who treats me in this way. In front of my child? No way.
So yesterday, we have a big blow up argument whilst shopping. He’s f-ing and blinding, I’m not. Its not my style. It basically went along the lines of me asking a question (tad of sarcasm) about shopping and him responding in a way which made me say I’m sick of how you talk to me and don’t intend to spend the next 20 years being spoken to as if I’m stupid. He then says ‘if you want me to leave then tell me the date’ and I say well go then. And those were the last proper words we spoke. We went back home and after shopping was unpacked he left for a few hours. We haven’t spoken since. I’ve no idea what will happen next but we don’t have screamy arguments which leads me to believe that it may really be over and right now I’m not upset. Its been good writing this down, no idea what I’m expecting to read back from fellow m-netters though…
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massive row and I think that we're over and I'm alright... I think (sorry long)
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alilstressed · 09/12/2013 13:11
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