I posted a cpl of weeks ago re my ex and nasty text messages, not really threatening just very verbally abusive.
I took advice and made new solicitors appointment rather than approach te police with a view to getting some sort of non molestation order against him.
My solicitor wasnt present when I went to appointment and has since failed to contact me to rearange(whole other thread, I hope to be able to get a new solicitor using existing legal aid claim, I've no idea if this is possible.
So last night ex texted me saying he "knew" I was seeing someone and basically asking where I was, where ds was etc.
I vocally respond saying none of your business, leave me alone. For the record I'm neither seeing someone and was at home in bed. As was ds
The texts started agin this afternoon basically saying I'm seeing someone who has a gf and kids, he hasn't named anyone but he has accused me of this before and I've not seen the person in question for years and not communicated with him in any way for over a year.
As it happens I wouldn't be interested in this person even if single.
So ex is obviously wound up, albeit unjustifiably.
Tonight he has driven past my house and texted to again ask where ds was as house was in darkness, ds was in bed and I was in back bedroom ironing.
Again I respond that he needs to leave me alone but do tell him that ds is at home in bed. He respond with "if you don't stop lying ill come round there and find out for myself".
This is the first time I've felt threatened and I do want to call the police I'm just scared that they will see this as a silly domestic which will waste their time.
In truth I genuinely believe ex has issues with some sort of personality disorder, he certainly has narc traits and I'm worried what will come next.
He has no reason at all to drive past my house(tucked away well back from main road, he has no friends nearby) and obviously he has no right to behave this way but is it criminal?
I've got to hand ds over at ten am tomorrow for contact and just know his behaviour will be icy and disrespectful at best so my mum is going to be around.
This is shit, I'm nothing but polite and calm towards him and I've dealt with this for over a year. Is rig police immediately if I knew they would understand. Just feel shit taking them away from crime and important duties
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Considering calling police, will I be wasting their time?
Wereonourway · 14/09/2013 21:28
just stumbled across this thread. op you are doing brilliantly. really, you are. keep it up and stay strong 
Have been following this OP, I hope you're okay and that the police have been back in touch with you 
You do the right thing to take the rest when you can. Look after yourself - chicken dinner sounds good 
keep talking it out.
Good advice from hissy on getting another phone and batshit made me I have never heard that before.
Keep all texts he has sent so far and keep ignoring - I think he is a bit panicked about how you have been brilliantly responding to his actions. Keep to the plan, you are doing so well.
A residence order is not as big a thing as you think and a judge will not side with him. Any order has only to be made if it is will benefit the child - it will benefit your DS to have a stable environment and a good, consistent pattern of contact he understands which is what you are offering - threatening to withhold a child from a parent in the way your ex has done is not in the child's best interest. NO judge in the land will think that, that is ok. You having a laptop he thinks he should have or a million pound watch for that matter, has nothing to do with the welfare of your DS and he can't barter a child for a laptop or anything.
Make sure you keep notes on how your DS was in PJ's and no socks (ok before I get flamed as a one off in isolation no big deal but this is part of an overall picture/pattern of neglect) - I doubt he had been fed either - this is not good for your DS, he must feel very vulnerable but you are doing everything you can, DS has a wonderful mummy and as long as he has you he will be fine. Refusal to give you things that DS needs - and you bought I presume? is not right. I know you don't want DS to suffer any more but he should be providing things that DS needs whilst in his care.
All this put to a judge would be a no brainer - it is all child centred concern.
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