What pathetic things do you do to get your own back on Dh/Dp ??

[Primadonnagirl]

When I'm angry with him I confess to having:
Hidden his keys
Put out of date food in his lunchbox
Taken the loo roll out of the bathroom
Not told him his Mum has rung...knowing he'd get into big trouble for not ringing back!!!!

[sosooootired]

gosh why do the poe faced invade a thread that doesn't interest them?

i hate smoking and i'm very cross that dh has re-started after stopping for 5 years! so i routinely throw away any cigarettes and lighters i find - I did warn him I would and I admit to it

I also hide clothes that I hate to see him wear...

[Lweji]

There are different things here.

The thermostat thing is more a battle than a thing to get back at someone.
Not washing clothes when the partner has been entitled is perfectly justified to remind them to pull their weight.
Throwing away cigarettes with previous warnings is fair enough.

Randomly hiding keys and other actions to get back at someone is just nasty, IMO.
But, then, maybe that's where I went wrong with ex.

[BlackDahlia11]

If you are a couple who pranks each other and neither minds then that's fair enough I think. But this is about 'revenge' on someone you love. Some said that the people who don't do these things must have boring relationships. To me, I think if you have to do these things to your husbands then your lives must be rather boring. If that's where you get your excitement from... DH found this thread pretty sad. He's glad I'm not some psycho who hides his stuff and deletes his game saves and TV programmes

[Primadonnagirl]

OP back here..didn't expect to unleash a debate about emotional cruelty!! It's just a bit of fun FFS!! My DH knows I do these things and we often burst out laughing and it resolves the fight..one day I flounced off and he shouted "and leave my bloody keys alone!" and we couldn't help laughing.its just playfulness not grounds for divorce. Loving some of these ideas though...he'll never suspect .. ! Oh, he gets his own back on me too...opens every single drawer and cupboard in the kitchen as he knows it drives me mental!

[Purplemonster]

My OH is seriously messy, it drives me bonkers that he doesn't pickup after himself, he leaves loose change everywhere, pants and socks on the floor, empty beer cans on the side in the kitchen not in the recycling etc. I've tried grown up talks, nagging, crying, going on strike - nothing works. If I don't want to live in a shit pit, I have to move it.

Most of the time I just put it all where it belongs whilst muttering and cursing his name but some weekends when it's bad and I'm really pissed off about it I secretly issue on the spot fines/taxation, something like a pound per pair of socks or pants and that part of the loose change goes in my saving pot and the rest goes in his change drawer. It's only a petty couple of quid but it stops me from actually murdering him makes me feel better!

[Fleecyslippers]

A very fine line between playing a 'prank' and being a nasty git. Some of this stuff is beyond dysfunctional but having been at the receiving end of similar 'jokes' for 15 years I can see it for what it is.

[differentnameforthis]

Who's being passive aggressive? Saying that I feel this type of "revenge" is cruel, among other things, is not passive aggressive. It is my opinion!

It's a shame that people describing more respectful and kind relationships are being mocked for being boring I know, right! Just because we don't play games, we are open to being mocked. But I guess, what so we expect when they display this kind of 'revenge' in relationships.

Fucking with someone's vital respiratory support equipment whilst they're asleep? I too found that worthy!

And my marriage isn't boring. We have been married almost 2 years & have 5 years pre marriage on top of that. We have plenty of fun, we prank each other etc, just not in the name of revenge.

I would go ballistic at dh is he deleted my movies/programmes from the planner, therefore it would not cross my mind to do it to him!

[differentnameforthis]

20 years, almost 20 years!! Argh!

[delilahlilah]

I think the issue is not the actions but the intent with which they are done, and the context. Afaik, the thread is on a basis of one partner consistently doing certain things that annoy the other, the other partner responds by doing something to annoy the first partner in retaliation. These are not malicious acts, just minor day to day things that happen to resolve situations for some people.
I don't think it requires blowing out of all proportion. Those of you deriding pranks / retaliation may not understand it, but I think you will find that the partners in these relationships have been together quite a few years and will still be together further down the line. It works out for them, and probably cuts down the arguments....

[SirChenjin]

It's only 'what it is' if it's something that upsets and belittles the other person, they ask you to stop and you refuse. There are some on here who don't understand it and think it's cruel, and others whose relationships and marriages share the same (warped?!) sense of humour and are more than able to withstand these acts.

No two marriages are the same and there are no rights or wrongs, unless one party feels abused or threatened or unhappy. The you cross over into the 'what it is' territory which becomes a whole different ballgame.

[Noregrets78]

Loving it myself. I'm stuck in a house with a husband who won't move out. I might slowly make my way through these suggestions...

[SissySpacekAteMyHamster]

I got sick of asking my DH not to leave his dirty socks under the coffee table where he had taken them off each night. In the end, I saved a few pairs up and stuff them in his laptop case.

Apparently his colleague thought it was hilarious when he opened his laptop up for a load of stinky socks to come falling out onto his desk!

He stopped leaving his socks lying about at least.

[SirChenjin]

Exactly delilahlilah - we've been together for over 20 years, and still going strong.

[Lweji]

Loving it myself. I'm stuck in a house with a husband who won't move out. I might slowly make my way through these suggestions...
What if he starts doing the same, though?
It could easily escalate.

The film War of the Roses comes to mind.

[scottishmummy]

you're an absolute heidcase op.how v Kyle of you
and you're bragging about it?the mirth of it all
do two have matching trackies?dugs on a rope

[SirChenjin]

Just as the film War of the Roses is a comedy, I suspect that Noregrets isn't being completely serious - given that this thread was meant to be lighthearted.

[SirChenjin]

Is that all of us Scottish, or just the OP?

[Primadonnagirl]

That's the nicest thing anyone has ever said about me!!

[Mumsyblouse]

I get it's supposed to be lighthearted but I still don't get it. I think it's one of those things like calling each other horrible names that in a loving kind relationship, is just joking about, but in a different context means something really different.

But- my husband has sleep apnoea and has choked in the night when his machine accidentally switched off, he awoke feeling like he was drowning in a panic- I really would not cut off his air supply to wake him up, however much the machine was making a noise (I put a pillow between me and him to stop the cold air going on me, or poke him and say 'turn over'- I do get the problem).

[scottishmummy]

ach,I knew you'd appreciate it
do you put in any public performances,any screaming of tutting in public
next time I see couple giving each other jip will think of you

[Fleecyslippers]

Noregrets why can't you leave yourself ?

[Primadonnagirl]

I'm making him take a lie detector test about sleeping with my sister right now actually!

[SirChenjin]

A couple of you seem to be very upset about the apnoea thing. He's had it for 15 years, and occasionally I put my finger over the blowhole for a second or two if he's starting to snore. That wakes him just enough to move position, but not enough that he wakes completely. I can't turn him over because he's much bigger than I am, and if I shout at him to wake up (he's a very sound sleeper, once slept through a house fire for example) than he wakes with a massive start which he doesn't like.

OK?

[Mum2Fergus]

Delete his series links off SKY; replaced one of his golf clubs with and extendable feather duster, putting club cover over the top of it; replaced vodka with vinegar.