My ex when I was complaining that he had been abusive to me & DD whilst post partum, (dropping newborn into my lap as he was too impatient for me to get my boob out and she was crying) - telling me that I was very difficult to deal with after the birth of our DD he said any man would have found me difficult. 40 hour labour ending in ventouse, episiotomy which stitches burst a week into recover, losing loads of blood and my ex encouraging me to not get a blood transfusion so we could bring the baby home quicker.
At the breastfeeeding support group where they discovered I'd been feeding DD for 2 weeks in so much pain because she had a 95% tongue tie - he said "Oh, I thought you were just being a wimp"
Another one for "I think it was just you who made me manic, or the relationship because now I'm fine"
"I don't ever want to live in a world where I have to not take drugs at a party, just because my girlfriend has told me not to"
When I said to him after I left with DD "aren't you sad that you've lost your family?" he said "What do you mean.... I haven't lost my family?"
When our couples therapist asked him if he could see why I might feel nervous when he was texting whilst driving considering my friend had just died in a car crash... he said "Yeah well my heart bleeds but what about what SHE'S doing to me...always telling me what to do etc etc'
Him telling people we separated mutually and it was mediated by therapy...when actually I left him because he was physically, verbally and psychologically abusive to me and I realised during couples therapy that he had no empathy, would never take responsibility and would not change.
When separating I said to him that he could easily get help & that some people don't have to just live with these extended hypomanic mood changes he said "And now you're one of them"
Him telling me I was being oversensitive and health and safety gone made when I got upset about him changing DD's nappy on top of the car when she was a newborn, or leaving her carseat with her in it, by the side of his car, on the road side whilst cars going past.
Telling me if it was up to him that DD wouldn't be strapped into a carseat, that it was unecessary...
Telling my Mum when she visited after the birth as she left "Sorry for snapping at you...but it was either you or Nancy that was going to get it".
Telling everyone that I was struggling to accept the end of the relationship and that was why we were having problems co-parenting. Alleging that I was jealous of his new "stable, long term" relationship - this was after they had been together 6 months. In 2 years they have broken multiple times....
Telling me he wanted DD to meet his girlfriend as he thought it'd be really nice for her to see an example of a solid, loving, stable and healthy relationship which I obviously was never going to be able to show her.