A friend had a massive go at me the other day and said she doesn't wish to be friends with me anymore as I don't put enough effort into the friendship. I've known her for about 3 years and to be fair she is quite hard work; demanding and wanting to talk on the phone and via text quite a lot, and getting stroppy with DH if I'm not home when she calls.
I've never been one for having loads of friends but the other friends that I do have are all easy going like I am, they're not high maintenance, they don't need constant reassurance and contact from me and they don't make demands on me. I don't feel the need to see friends every day or even every week, but I do keep in contact with people that matter to me.
I just wondered whether this is what friendships are supposed to be like or am I being a rubbish friend? My very good friends know I am always there for them and am only on the other end of the phone if they need me or need anything. I have quite a busy life, and a DH and kids and I don't feel like I can be lots of things to lots of people, if that makes sense?
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How much effort do you put into friendships?
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BarcelonaBabes · 30/01/2013 21:57
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