My active and fit mum (68) has ummed and erred about relocating to be nearer my sister and me for years. I am expecting DC2 and this has sort of crystallised her decision. However, she sufferes with low level seasonal depression (and general indesicion and glass-half-full outlook) and it is so difficult to find a way to support her in making this move, given we're in the middle of winter.
She is clear about wanting to move, but that sort of where it ends, she just collapses into deflated despondency when she tries to make any decisions about how to move ahead. She seems to have some kind of worry or objection to every step of the way forward; couldn't possibly consider / afford such and such a place, too noisy, garden too small, would prefer a bungalow etc.
She is scared to have her place valued in case she gets an unpleasant surprise (she lives in a bungalow of non-traditional construction, requiring some refurbishment in a lovely spot on the Dorset coast), as this will impact on what she can afford when she moves. She's convinced they are going to say that the house is worthless and that people will only be interested in the plot; naturally for much less money. She's wondering about applying for planning permission for a new house to be constructed on her plot and sell it with a view to potential buyers demolishing her house. Is this necessary?
I am struggling to keep a clear head about it too, I love her place and although I can see the sense of having her here with us (it will be lovely) I worry that she will miss her home and her life and perhaps find it difficult to put down new roots in a new place.
There are so many issues at play here, but my primary request is for a bullet-pointed list of what to do to roll her ball forward with sensitivity. I'm still happily in my first house so I don't have the experience of selling I feel I need.
Anyone moved aging parents?
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Helping DM begin process of relocating, practical and moral support needed!
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peacefuleasyfeeling · 27/12/2012 20:10
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