Dds who's nearly 5 is starting in receiption on Monday. She's been at the School for 2 years already in its pre-nursery and then nursery. she is familiar wiht the nursery staff and headteacher and of course the children in her class.
I always take the children to school on their first ever day. AFter that my dh does rota wiht another mum.
This year its my best friend and dh's first cousin's son's barmitzvah. In other words my closest friend and family's function on sunday. We are staying the night in the hotel sunday night after the function. The "we" is dh and I and our eldest 3 children. The youngest 2 children , inclujding dd3 the subject of this post, are remaining at home with our au pair as they are not invited .(It is quite common in our circles not to invite childrne at all as this is a 5 * hotel in centrla london and is sit down dinner and dance - our eldest 3 are only coming as 2 are best friends with barmitzvah boy's siblings and other one is close to boy himself. )
I am torn about dd3's first day in recpeiton. Au pair could take her. Au pair is thankfully one of the nice sweet loved ones and dd does love her. I could also let her miss the first day and take her the next day myself instead. I can't drive back from teh hotel to take her as it is over one hour drive and there is a big breakfast planned at hotel next morning and I do'nt really want to miss it - friend would be offended too probalby if i missed it. All other kids attending are having ( permitted) day off school.
My friends all say to sae nd her in with au pair. I'm tempted to do this too but feel a bit mean for dd. What would you do?