childs reception school report vvvv negative and bad. Need a plan of action for Sept, advice please girls.

[deanychip]

The jist of the report is that he has zero attention span, is "disruptive not only to himself but other pupils too".
Disrupts lessons allot
wont join in with gtoup work
shows no interest in anything unless he wants to do it.
will need to learn to behave appropriately outside of classroom and with other teachers.

I was not aware of any of this due to there bieng zilch communication with teacher UNLESS i asked why is his name on the punishment bourd...which was about 4 times over the academic year. Even then, not told any thing in depth or to make me seek out action plan.

so Sept plan:

1. meet with new teacher tell her of previous issues.
   
2. ask for regular communication with herself re ds's behaviour
   
   what else do i need to do?
   What if he has fallen behind? she said in the report that there was no way of asessing his abilities due to his "lack of commitment"
   BTW he only turned 5 2 weeks ago

[CarGirl]

I agree that punishing at home for behaviour at school is probably not helpful but rewards for good behaviour/concentration could help.

An IEP does sound like it could be the tool to use, clear and measurable expectations that everyone knows about

[hana]

our students sometimes have a home/school book when there are behaviour issues and we've even linked in rewards (never punishments) for when they've been good at home - back at school. It works with some children. That might be worth a go.

[deanychip]

I have no idea what the school offer so i will speak with the teacher in September but think that this school/home book is a very good idea especially as i dont pick him up from school every day so wont get a verbal report back on a daily basis.

I think that the "lack of comitment" comment was meant for me tbh. i once wrote in his reading home book that we had not read it as we were playing in the garden and it got late

they think that i am a crap mother wo isnt interested in her kids education.

[Amethyst86]

This sounds outrageous. Your ds sounds very similar to mine deanychip and within three weeks of him starting they asked for a meeting to discuss the ishoos. It wasn't much fun but I would hate to have been going along thinking things were fab and then suddenly have this big ton of negativity dropped in the form of a school report ('Reports' at age 5 ffs, but don't get me started on that!)

Naughty Board??! Is that for real? Public humilation for 5 year olds? Why not just put him in the stocks and have done with it?

I would definitely tell them that I wanted to be kept more in the loop with regards to his behaviour and any problems he and they might be having. I think the idea of approaching his SENCO is a good one. Doesn't hurt to look at all the angles.

[Flightputsonahat]

This is why I didn't like school - they have your child and you don't have a clue what goes on with them all day!
I hope you find a way to open the channels a bit with them, I never could see a way to do this as they were thoroughly busy all the time and the parent's evenings were 10 minutes of 'He's very sweet, he's good at numbers, can't read at all, blah blah'. Never got a chance to discuss anything important. Nobody cared if I knew or not. They just got on with it.

I really missed him! Am HEing now

The school seems to have terribly high expectations of a very little boy, I am very sorry you've had to deal with this