Changing ASD routine to please others..

[cookiesandmilk]

My son is seven in mainstream school and has autism. Doesn't 'play' or communicate with other children prefers adult company and likes routines. Very quiet and well behaved.

School have let him have his own carpet space and said he could stand at the back of the line at playtime and hometime etc.

The class has had a talk about my son being autistic and that he feels safe at the back of the line.

One girl keeps standing behind him she tells him that her mum says she can stand where she likes.

Sometimes the teacher notices other times not.

At picking up time the other day the girl came out and the adult collecting her said loudly, 'Go back in and stand at the back, you can stand wherever you like'. The girl went and stood behind my son. The adult is aware my son has autism.
The teacher let this happen.

So I am assuming people find this routine unfair so any advice on how to help my son drop this routine. We don't have this routine out of school, his routines at school help his anxiety.

[MrsAgassi]

Ask for a meeting with the Senco and ask that the routine is supported. Was this child in the same class when this was introduced and when the class were spoken to?

This is not your child receiving special treatment, it is something in place for good reason to make school less stressful for him.

If it continues to happen I would expect the school to call the parent in and explain to her that her actions are harmful to a child with additional needs and is also teaching her child to be as ignorant as she is.

[TheColonelAdoresPuffins]

Wow. What a nasty parent encouraging their child to do that. You can see where she gets her bullying behaviour from.
If the school won't support your son against them, would your son prefer to move to the other class away from the bully girl?