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3 children with the same name reception class - would you be annoyed?

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Twozealotmorethan1 · 12/07/2017 21:24

My son is due to start reception in September. It's a large school with a 3 class intake per year. We got class lists through this week and I was surprised to see that there girls with the same name have been put in the same class rather than spread between the three. They are the only three girls in the year with that name and the name is relatively common around here, but not overly so (for what difference that makes). For the purposes of this post, let's say they are called Sophie. Aside from not making it easy for the class teacher of that class, I think it's quite unfair on the girls, especially as in this school, unlike some others I've heard about, the classes stay unchanged throughout the primary school and so these children will be together until age 11 at least.
I can't help think that it's inevitable that the girls will become known as Sophie P / Sophie E etc according to their surnames and may even be more likely to attract unkind nicknames as they get older e.g. 'Big' Sophie, 'Fat' Sophie etc.
I realise it's not always possible to avoid having more than one child with the same first name in a class and I know various factors are taken into account when setting class groups but I can't help think that in a school with three class entry this could have easily been avoided? I would be a bit irritated if I was one of their parents. I have a younger child who will go to the school too in due course and am tempted to feed back to the school politely that I don't think this approach is helpful. What do you think?

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NoMudNoLotus · 12/07/2017 22:10

Why are you bothered about this ?

Teachers spent hours painstakingly trying to allocate children into classes that will match all manner of educational , social & psychological needs.

This is not an issue.

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MummysMaison · 12/07/2017 22:10

In my high school year of 120 there were 2 Rachel Anne smiths who were both put in the same form. Didn't do them any harm not to be split up.

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NoMudNoLotus · 12/07/2017 22:12

Below their pay grade 😂

That's the equivalent of saying ward managers don't get involved in carrying out personal care for their patients.

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Starlight2345 · 12/07/2017 22:13

Oh yes do go in and tell them..They can pick you out as that parent right from the start...The reason people say it is nothing to do with you unless you are a Governor then you only need to go in with issues that affect your child.

They really will be aware there are 3 Sophie's in the class and if they felt it was a concern would not of done so,

Save your battles for what is needed.

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paxillin · 12/07/2017 22:13

Are parents and carers no longer allowed to give feedback on school policies?

You want to give feedback about girls'names in your son's class? That will be the beginning of a long 7 years for the poor HT. Are you planning on giving feedback about Year 6 PSHE classes when your 4 year old starts? On the reception bear picnic when he's in Year 6? The colour of the girls' summer dresses? How none-of-your-business does it have to be for you not to feed back?

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RiverTam · 12/07/2017 22:13

To be fair, to the lay person I think it does seem odd to have 3 children with the same name and not spread them across the three classes, one in each. Especially when you consider the number of posts we get from teachers moaning about the number of they have a in a class and what a drag it is.

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tinhead · 12/07/2017 22:14

The Peregrine club sound adorable!

I don't think the name thing will be an issue op, you'll soon have bigger fish to fry at school.

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gillybeanz · 12/07/2017 22:15

As it isn't even one of your children I think you'd be seen as a busy body with too much time on their hands tbh.
There were 2 other girls with my name at school, same class through primary. It wasn't a common name, it just worked out that way.
The strange thing was that the context of conversations always made it apparent which one of us was being referred to.
I think you'll have enough to worry about with your own child starting school and deciding what is important to inform school about and what will make you look like "that parent"
We've all been there OP, it isn't a dig. Thanks

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Dibbles1967 · 12/07/2017 22:15

"Fat Sophie" Really?!

If the teachers take that approach then yes, a word. Otherwise not an issue. Like a PP I also had a James P as it was a popular name back then & 4 others in the class. The school cannot spread them out according to name.

Children aren't bothered & neither should you be. Reserve your energy for all the mammoth projects you will have to do your son has to look forward to.

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 12/07/2017 22:15

Teachers spent hours painstakingly trying to allocate children into classes that will match all manner of educational , social & psychological needs.

Do they? My DS is about to start at one if the (apparently) top 3 primaries in England and we were told the two classes were decided by taking the oldest and then the youngest off the lists until it was an equal split. I'm assuming they know what they're up to but perhaps not as tgatvexetcuse,must have taken all of 10 minutes Grin

Anyway, OP - definitely feed back and let us know the response

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CandODad · 12/07/2017 22:16

I have two Daisy's in my class. To make matters worse they are both Daisy S so I cant even call them Daisy S and Daisy Y. I resolved this by calling them Miss Smith and Miss Something. They love it because for the first time in three years at school they aren't confused by which Daisy the teacher wants.

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Brighteyes27 · 12/07/2017 22:17

We had this with DD let's say she was called Sophie and their was another Sophie in her class. They were the only Sophies in the year. The teacher and classmates called them Sophie X and Sophie Y. I wouldn't have dreamed of being annoyed or speaking to school.
In fact for the first few years my DD called herself Sophie X and we got Christmas cards and birthday cards with this on it was quite cute. It's really not a problem. Unless your DD had been named something really unusual she is bound to come across other DC's with the same name in life.

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 12/07/2017 22:17

Just call them fat and thin Daisy Grin

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indigox · 12/07/2017 22:18

You're going to be that insufferable parent aren't you?

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MaisyPops · 12/07/2017 22:20

Are parents and carers no longer allowed to give feedback on school policies?
Of course you can and there are ways to do that for every school.
Whether you should be calling up based on the names of children in the class is the real question.
Gobbolinothewitchscat
That will be to get the age spread across the groups. It probably will give you a rough group list to start with (they have to start somewhere and that would probably be the quickest to get X number of classes).
Then if they're lucky all the other target groups will be evenly spaced. If they're not then some moving around will happen.

By the time they get to secondary class lists are a nightmare some years trying to allocate TA support, sets for each subject matching up on the timetable, keeping known players apart, getting even gender split, not having a 'sink' group or group that could go that way. Then try to get each group to the most appropriate teacher. And still we get complaints over the tiniest things. Grin I don't envy the timetabler

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Piglet208 · 12/07/2017 22:21

Surely informing the school about this situation would be stating the obvious. I'm pretty sure the teachers will have read the lists and do not need telling. The decision on these 3 girls has absolutely nothing to do with you and involves so many criteria that you would not necessarily be privy to. In the kindest way I would suggest that you do not contact the school.

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treaclesoda · 12/07/2017 22:22

Are parents and carers no longer allowed to give feedback on school policies?

Parents aren't really encouraged to give feedback on school policies are they? Teachers are the experts at running schools, that's why we pay them to do it.

Obviously if you have a specific concern regarding your child (eg bullying, or something they need extra support with) then yes, you contact the school and discuss it, but that's rather different from every parent wading in to advise the headteacher on how they think things should be done.

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Gileswithachainsaw · 12/07/2017 22:22

There are 2 of each class at dds' school. By end of reception they are 're shuffled to encourage new friendships and to balance out the classes needs/abilities wise (well I assume that's what it is anyway)

They quite possibly won't all be together for the duration but so what if they are. Surely we all know we aren't the only sarahs/jacks/Alice in the world don't know why people give it much thought.

I.had three Christopher's and three Andrews in my primary school class.

And in college 4 of my friends were all the same name. It happens

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FrToddUnctious · 12/07/2017 22:24

Gobbolino Grin

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MaroonPencil · 12/07/2017 22:27

I know a school that sets reception classes by ages so the summerborns are all together
I know a school that sets classes by feeder nursery
I know a school that sets classes by the area of town children are from

My kids' school does it's best not to put children with the same name in the same class but that comes after other considerations. My son was in a class with a child with the same first name AND middle name. They are now best friends.

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MimsyBorogroves · 12/07/2017 22:28

We had 4 of us with my name in school.

We all sat together, at a table of 4. Great fun for the teacher, I bet.

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mrz · 12/07/2017 22:29

I'm not sure why you see it as a problem
It's more of a problem if you have three children with different names who can't work together and so disrupt the whole class. Or three children with different names who are a bad influence when together so disrupt the class. Or three children with different games who dominate less confident children... many reasons for the head to consider when organising classes none relating to first names.

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auserinamillion · 12/07/2017 22:29

No!! Yabu!

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daisybrown37 · 12/07/2017 22:32

My son is going to be one of three Olivers in his class (one is spelt slightly differently but pronounced the same) He is Oliver D already at nursery. Not bothered at all - we did choose the most popular boys name because we loved it. Only issue is that when I shout his name in playgrounds I get other kids turning round!

Schools do welcome parent feedback but if the other affected parents are bothered then they should raise it, not you. Personally I would be more interested in the teacher and TA than which 4 year old is in my sons class.

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timeisnotaline · 12/07/2017 22:32

I used to work with Dave Dave and Dave. God knows why they hired Dave 3. Surely they could have found a Harry somewhere.

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