Christmas Cards Cheekiness

[Sadie82]

Hi everyone, just looking for some advice. My daughter is in year 1 and is 5 years old. She loves christmas and so wanted to write cards for all her class. I was fine with this and we always do cards for all the class as we would hate anyone to feel left out.

It took around 2 1/2 hours for her to write them all with me helping her here and there. She took them in and everyone accepted them kindly apart from two girls who told her she hadnt written enough in the cards...she had only written 4 words...she should have written x amount (apparently!).
My daughter ended up apologising to the two girls, though I would say she wasnt very upset (she thought about it enough to tell me though)

Do you think I would be within my rights to tell the teacher what they said..or even have a word with their mums...if you dont think its the teachers job to deal with it?

My daughter is the first in the class to give out cards. Last year she gave everyone a card and got about 6 back...thats no problem as she enjoys giving them out...but I didnt expect that she would have to apologise while giving them out!

The girls are pretty nice but I think they are starting to get a little big for their boots as they are two of the oldest and arguably the cleverest in the class and I think it might be good for them just to realise that they need to be a little kinder.

I would probably just say to the teacher that my daughter worked quite hard on the cards and some of the girls gave her a hard time and she ended up apologising to them, which I dont think is fair.

Will the teacher think Im mental or fair?😂

[OrangeSquashTallGlass]

I imagine the teacher knows what those girls are like already. It's not worth mentioning IMO. Just put it down to life experience and move on.

[Sadie82]

Thanks for the reply, probably the last thing I will say about this is,
if the girls had criticised her school work I would not have mentioned it to the teacher and told my daughter to forget about it....but I just feel my daughter went out of her way to be kind....they went out of their way to be unkind. I think this is unfair and a quick word to the class on kindness will not hurt anyone.

[jamdonut]

I sure the teacher knows what those girls are like! It's a pity your daughter didn't mention it herself.
If I or the teacher had overheard those comments, they would have been given a talking to about accepting things gracefully, and how rude to make those comments .
Tell your daughter she has nothing to be sorry for. Perhaps the girls were jealous that they weren't first to give theirs out. Or perhaps their parents are making them write way too much on their own cards, and it's taking a long time?

All that is needed is " To XXXXX, FromXXXXX", at that age.

[Ginmummy1]

Similar story here! My DD (also y1) was one of the first to give out Christmas cards, and she told me that two or three other girls were upset/cross with her because she didn't write 'BFF' on their cards!!

I just told my DD that it was ridiculous and she shouldn't be made to feel bad for not writing some silly trendy thing she didn't even know existed when she wrote the cards.

I definitely wouldn't be talking to the teacher about this. Girls, eh?!

[Emeraude]

I would want to know if I were their class teacher. If there are children who are being secretly mean/snobby/ungrateful it's always good to know about it to keep an eye on and stamp out.

[JeffreySadsacIsUnwell]

Is she your DC1, OP? And do either of the other two have older siblings?

TBH, sounds like something my DC2 (4yo, in YR) would say, not realising it's rude/sounds unkind. When doing their Christmas cards, DC1 'corrected' DC2 (who was writing simply the recipient's name and his own) and told him that he had to write "dear" and "love from" as well (whereupon he lost his temper and that was the end of the cards - but I can completely see him repeating the 'advice' to his classmates...).

I wouldn't read too much into it. They're all keen to show off what little knowledge they have at this age!

[Mamabear12]

I would just leave those two girls out of any other card making efforts in the future ;)