Title says it all, her dc is going into year 6, mine is going into year 5. Different schools though, if it matters. She warned me to check the sex ed material before they learn it as she was gutted when she heard how explicit it was, apparently many parents complained.
I'm not a prude, I'm happy for them to learn age appropriate stuff, eggs, sperm, erections, wet dreams etc but he's not a streetwise kid, he's so innocent and sweet I don't like the thought of him having to learn about extra bits like for example oral sex (or whatever she meant by explicit, we didn't discuss specifics) I've only just got him to stop drinking the bath water "because there's bottom germs in there" 
I'm a bit spooked, anyone with a year 6 or above child who can give me their experience with the module, please?
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A mum just told me yr 5 sex ed is explicit and she was gutted
PartyFants · 18/08/2016 18:16
Poor planning! For anyone who hasn't done this talk yet, sod the books, you will need at least wine in, if not gin.
Sage advice, thanks!
Poor planning! For anyone who hasn't done this talk yet, sod the books, you will need at least wine in, if not gin.
Sage advice, thanks!
Paryfants 
for you.
You did great.
(You'll probably need to have this chat lots more times in different ways but the floodgates sound opened now! 
)
Hi, op here, I thought you might like an update as my books finally arrived: Who's Got What? and Mummy Laid An Egg.
The Who's Got What one is for very young children, but it was good for them all to read because it named their parts and had a very simple cartoon showing what they look like. We've always used words like bits and willy (don't lecture me, I know how MN feels about those words but as I said, he used to have no idea of appropriate places and times to talk about such things so it was useful back then not to get too excruciatingly technical! I do remember him asking an old lady at the bus stop if she had a willy, that was bad enough) so I read that with them last night.
Then today at bedtime I talked through Mummy Laid an Egg with him, and my youngest wandered upstairs so she got the story too. That was useful because she asked for the whole thing to be repeated afterward, so although he had no questions the first reading, after the second (where he really concentrated) he asked a couple of really astute questions like if girls have a vagina and a uterus the same as ladies, can children get pregnant, and I said no it wasn't possible until they are teenagers (I didn't cover puberty/periods yet) and that children don't come together like the parents in the story did, that it's only for grown ups. So he asked if teenagers could get pregnant and I said yes, so he said "that means that you can't have a relationship til you're an adult then, so you don't have a baby when you're still in high school" and I said there were ways not to get pregnant - he said "surgery?" (I think because we talked about spaying/neutering animals recently) and I very briefly explained about condoms. Phew!
So, still lots to explain but I felt that was as much as needed to be said tonight. He coped well, with only slight red cheeks when I told him they'd be discussing this in school at some point. "Oh come on, that's embarrassing!" He thoroughly enjoyed the book and it's blatant silliness - my children are very silly! Humour is the way forward with them.
Oh god and then I went through it all again with my six year old who has no natural shyness at all yet, she really understood the concept way more than him and was soon yanking pyjamas off trying to have a look at "the baby hole" which she said she thought you grew when you were a grown up. I declined a look, thanks, spoke about bodies being private and belonging just to her, then put her to bed, kissed her goodnight and headed downstairs for a stiff drink. To find there is no booze in the house, of any description. 
Poor planning! For anyone who hasn't done this talk yet, sod the books, you will need at least wine in, if not gin.
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I had a year 9 tutor group and we covered sex education. According to a parent complaint my lessons were too graphic! She thought her daughter was too young for sex ed - she had missed the consent opt out letter so it was too late. She also raised the very valid point that at break and lunch the students all talked about sex and had some vastly incorrect ideas about things. Do speak to your son about rumours not always being correct.
I used to have a year 13 tutor group of mainly boys who all claimed to be shagging all the time! Watching them putting condoms on the dildos was bloody terrifying! Big Air bubbles, upside down, the lot! I also had to pretend to be chlamidia in that session, as instructed by the nurse
Sex ed is by far my favourite pshe topic to teach. The looks of disgust when you explain what oral sex is priceless. There are still plenty of completely unknowing teenagers out there as the questions they put in the secret questions box always show it.
I didn't know the story about why the Samaritans was founded. How sad.
Not teaching a child about periods reminds me of the movie Carrie when she freaks out over period blood. She was obviously a teen so should have known earlier but if you didn't know about periods I can get why you'd freak out. Periods are a normal bodily function like getting hairy. Whilst I can understand that it's hard to start a conversation about sex, periods aren't that hard to talk about. (I'm talking about NT KIDS HERE)
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