No, I think we have gone on to separate arguments :-)
I'm just saying that i think phonics is great for starting off, but once a child can read well enough to be independent, then being exact on phonics isn't the main thing any more.
I'm sure other children learn differently - I'm not a teacher, so I have only read up on things that crop up around my own children. I have personally found, from my learning and from my own DD1, that the insistence that we have both come up against at school that being able to perfectly sound out every word is essential to being able to "read" - to me, reading is understanding and appreciating the text, not just being able to say it out loud. I would be happier, if it was a choice, for DD1 to understand the meaning of a word she couldn't pronounce than for her to be pronouncing words she couldn't understand.
DD1 is year one, and will have a good stab at reading pretty much everything. When we read through something together though, our focus is on understanding the text. If she says a word wrong when she is reading out loud (I still ask her to do that at least daily, just like I read to her) then I quickly correct her, but it isn't the focus. For example, today she was reading a picture book, and I asked her to read some aloud to me and DD2. She stumbled over the word "worrisome" so I read it to her, and at the end of that line asked her what she thought it meant. She said it sounded like, and had some of the same letters as, "worry" so maybe it was saying that the girl was worried about the thing. To me, realising that "worry" is in there is more important than the fact that she pronounced it wrong.
DD2 is 2, so she is still on her first few sounds in reading, but we can talk on a more basic level about what is happening in a story, and soon we will start encouraging her to pick out words and sounds in stories that we are reading to her.
Obviously they both do Jolly Phonics, Education City, Letterland and the rest (including the ORT and Usborne very first readers sets that we have), but we read lots of "grown up" poetry, sing songs, read the newspaper together and so on and our focus is much more on enjoying reading and working things out as we go, with a background of games etc to try to eliminate any blind spots.
But then I was just on Amazon looking for Latin resources so I can familiarise myself with them before starting DD1 next year. So I maybe have an unusual outlook [hgrin]