She’s always been bright with good grades and never had to really persevere. Things have got tougher this year (we live abroad) and her grades are slipping and she’s just not interested. She’ll do the minimum and blags us when we ask about homework or tests by saying she’s done it or it’s a test you can’t revise for, or she’ll rush through it, and then comes back with mediocre/poor grades.
We’ve talked about effort, and how that’s the most important thing, to try her hardest. We’ve talked about making choices that make her feel good afterwards, we’ve talked about good habits, and that she needs to choose what kind of person she wants to be and then walk the talk.
She seems to understand this, then doesn’t apply herself. Teachers have said the same.
Its soooo frustrating. And more importantly I want her self-chat to be positive, whereas I fear she’s going down the self-sabotage route like I did!
She doesn’t yet have a phone but does have a tablet though no screens allowed in the week… She loves her sport and music and practices them without asking and gets really in the zone with them. School is a bit bland here but we’ve talked also about how you’ve got to just crack on and do what you need to do. So I don’t expect her to love love love it but she’s doing the bare minimum which just feels a terrible habit to get into.
Has anyone else been through this and come out the other side with a conscientious kid who puts in the decent effort? How do you instill that sense of commitment and ownership? How do you help them create good habits and apply themselves??
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DirtyThree · 19/03/2024 06:53
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