Hi
I need some advice please, my 10 yo girl has the worse mood swings.
Shes quite bright and very good in school it's just the outbursts can be over anything!
When she's having a melt down she speaks to me like I am scum she swears at me has called me a bi*ch before now and then sometimes takes her frustrations out at her little sister which makes me get angrier at her I can calm myself pretty quickly but she triggers me something rotton. I've tried everything I take things away but now she's throwing stuff around the house I don't want this behaviour infront of her little sister. I am writing this crying because I'm so frustrated and then have I made her like this? I had serious pnd with her as a baby and was diagnosed ocd and recently suffering from depression due to Illnesses however I have hidden this from them maybe.
She has had camhs emotional sessions, called worry warriors she did well, I do pamper nights with my girls and we do emotional well-being activities so I know they can talk to me about anything. every 2 months we have one on one dates so they both get time alone with me. They are polite girls and have manners but no one sees this behaviour just me and when I speak to their dad for some support I don't think he sees how bad these melt downs get. Should I seek gp guidance? Is there something I can try at home? I dont think she has special needs or anything, sometimes I think its because she's very self aware so maybe she's just going through the motions and very directly! Help me please!
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Coffeecoffeecoffee29 · 13/03/2024 17:41
menopausalmare · 02/04/2024 07:24
My daughter is 10 and, although we're not getting abuse like you are, we get tears and outbursts if we suggest going out for walks or leaving the house.
She is happiest if cocooned in her room, playing Roblox and chatting with friends online.
We are limiting sugar and screen time and pushing through the tears and going out anyway.
She will not set the agenda. I worry she'll become more isolated and enter school refuser territory if we're not careful.
My mum had an expression when I was young - she would leave me to stew in my own juices but we always had a hug afterwards.
With your daughter I would limit screen time and sugar, get out for regular exercise, do nice things together when she in a good mood to build relationships, leave her to stew if she's moody, firm boundaries and consequences for bad behaviour and lots of hugs.
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