Extreme meltdowns

[Eden1990]

Hi,
my 11 year old daughter has always been highly emotional and had tantrums since she was a toddler and I assumed it would get better with age but it’s just gotten progressively worse! Any little thing sets her off and she just screams the house down, throws/kicks things and cries, there is no getting through to her you have to let her ride it out. We are all walking on egg shells it’s a nightmare!

I tried talking to her school and they completely brushed off my concerns and said she’s fine at school 🤯 no idea what to do or how to deal with this!

Ask school for an appointment with the school nurse and speak to your GP.

Has she started High School recently by any chance?

I would read up on ASD in girls. We were told so many times that there was nothing wrong and that our DD was fine at school. She's finally got into the Pathway and although we don't have a diagnosis, we've been told that she's showing severe ASD traits.

She could cope at Primary but the demands of High School combined with Puberty were just too much.

I would suggest you talk with the GP. There might be other signs missed to indicate ND.

If she turns out to be ND, seeking professional help earlier would make huge difference for her life and your family too.

I agree with pp, autism may be a reason for the meltdowns. It could also be hormonal changes, either way. It's worth a trip to the drs. Good luck

How are you both this week @Eden1990?

Sorry for the slow reply, I spoke to the school and they weren’t really interested at first as they said she hasn’t been a problem at school but since I spoke to them they have brought her behaviour to my attention and said they were worried about her emotional wellbeing and were keeping an eye on things.

i wouldn’t be surprised if she was neurodivergent, I highly suspect I am and we are also currently going through assessments for her older sister which has been a very long and hard battle!

I think in that case I'd go to the GP. Explain that older sibling is being assessed and that you and the school have concerns about DD's behaviour and ask for her to be referred directly to assessment too.