I’ll try to keep it as short as possible, but apologising in advance if it’s too long.
DD 12 started secondary school in September, she was bullied (trio of girls, always tricky 🙄) last 3 years of primary. We were communicating with school and keeping it under control but she was so sad and desperate all the time. So, secondary started and she found few girls to hang out with but is so sassy and rude at home. To make it clear, l work with children, so have always set boundaries and there are expectations, rewards and consequences. Husband and l mostly on the same page.
When l call her out for being rude, she starts crying and getting upset, saying she’s always the one in her friendship avoiding getting in trouble, and the other girls are not impressed, she’s worried about loosing them…she talks about ditching classes, not doing as told by teachers, taking her phone out while on break just because they feel like it, what would l do if she skipped class or had a detention, wandering if she should see school psychologist 😫 (her closest friend now, does) and l think she is just trying to fit in, but l am so worried, history is repeating itself, she is falling in with the bad crowd… Children from primary and secondary all come from problematic or broken homes (l’m not saying all children from broken homes are problematic! But these girls surly seem so, social services involved, ditching classes in year 7…language they use, plans they make) l am just trying to figure out what to do, will the school psychologist help or is she doing it to bond, how do l get through to her when she’s so sassy and should l keep her away from new friends, but then she’ll be alone… please, any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated 🙏
(that is one long post for keeping it short 🙈 but didn’t want to drip feed)
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TheDarkSideOfTheMoon · 08/11/2023 16:16
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