My ds is 12 and is 13 in March. For a long long time he did not wish to socialise but this has totally changed of late!
He started going out with his cycling friends. I don't mind that group of people as for one they are all boys and they are from nice families bar one.
Ds has struck up a friendship with a girl and also her 'boyfriend'. The 'boyfriend' carries a knife and smokes weed and vapes. Ds admitted he tried the vape Fri evening. I dropped him off at the girl's house Fri and picked him up after a few hours as agreed.
He then announced he wished to go out with them again Sunday. Surely this is too much? He went out with a friend until 2 pm Saturday.
Every time I have to drop off and pick up in a way I don't mind as I can keep a bit of control maybe that way as they live too far from him.
I think the girl is a bit of a tomboy and has a lot of boys as friends. Her parents are very free with her and let her stay up all hours.
It would seem there are more from iffy families than good ones these days does anybody else find this?
Ds went to a very middle class primary school but for the past year or so since secondary I have found the general cross section of families is quite unimpressive. Perhaps this is just a sign of the age we are in?
Correct me if I sound like I come out of the stone ages.
It is a low middle town I am in and education isn't that great but luckily ds's secondary school is ranked one of the top ten in the county which is a bit heartening. Even so I am not very impressed with the backgrounds.
Perhaps I just need to wake up and realise such is society these days?
Ds just texted me today is Monday he wishes to see his female friend again tonight. I said not on a school night. I don't mind Fri/Sat/Sun please reassure me I am not from the dark ages and not being a dragon!!
This all comes as a bit of a shock to me as I only have one child and no ex to help and no family support so I just make it up as I go along.
Thanks for any insight.
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PollyPelargonium52 · 06/11/2017 12:44
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