Eyelash pulling

[Tweennightmare]

My dd who is 12 has recently moved school due to our relocation . At first she settled in really well and all was good .Then she started reporting she was feeling left out and was unhappy at school. This had now manifested itself in her pulling out all her eyelashes and she is now working on her eyebrows.
I am at a loss what to do. I have tried to encourage friendship groups with encouraging her to have friends round, giving Xmas presents etc but she is still unhappy. How can I stop her doing this . I have listened to her , offered advise tried encouraged a new habit with a band round her wrist.
I haven't approached the school yet as not sure what they can do ditto with doctors but maybe I should has anyone else been through this . How did you resolve it?

[avarose1986]

Hello hunni I too pulled my eyelashes out when I was about her age maybe younger. I couldn't really explain it then and I can't really now. I think mind started though a feeling of isolation at school and it's just a compulsion to do it. I only stopped when my mum said to me that if I carried on my eyelashes might never grow back. It's really hard though because she has to stop herself from doing it through the compulsion to do it but ultimately it has to be her who stops herself doing it. The idea that I might loose my eyelashes forever worked for me x

[GlitzAndGigglesx]

I too suffer from tricholtillomania except pull the hair on my scalp. I've read about hypnotherapy but not sure how effective it is. I've been "pulling" for over a year and never seeked help. If I'm busy I don't pull but if im sat watching TV I pull without realising until it hurts. Might be worth visiting the gp to see what they can offer for her

[nunkspugget]

Dd...not dad!

[nunkspugget]

Its called trichotillomania. I have it, same as your dad....eyelashes and brows. Tbh, I have had bouts of being pull free, but stress usually brings on a fresh attack on my facial hair!
My longest successes have been with positive motivation like rewards at the end of each week I'd not pulled for. Please don't try to use shocks to try and build some sort of negative association with pulling....my mum would shriek at me thinking a good sharp shock would cure me. In actual fact the stress caused by it made me do it in private after each occurrence.

[Scabetty]

I would speak to the Pastoral Care person for her year group. They can help your dd and will have had experience of this. Has this been noticed at school?