11yo dd has been on oxybutinin for 5 years to help her with her bladder problems. She wet herself throughout infant school, and continued having frequent tiny leaks until about 18m ago. We think she was oblivious to the leaks for a long time. Her teachers have been fantastic and supportive. She has been reliably dry for over a year now.
Today dd had a tiny accident during PE. Unfortunately her urine can be very stinky. There were accusations and 'looks' about the smell of the changing rooms while the children were changing after PE. The accusations came from a group of boys who have picked on dd throughout junior school. I don't know if they knew that she was the probable source, it's likely that they just picked on her out of habit. But the raised eyebrows and sideways looks came from girls that dd considered friends.
Dd is devastated. She feels miserable and humiliated.
It breaks my heart. Dd can't help having bladder problems! She is so soft, so easily hurt. She's going up to secondary next year, and won't be able to make a fresh start because at least half of her current year group will be going to the same school. I don't want her to carry a 'stinker' label!
I wonder whether this accident is anything to do with a recent change in her medication regime - easy enough to revert to the previous regime. But how do I help her be less hurt by thes things? How do I prevent these looks and comments? How do I get her to look after herself better? She needs to drink much much more do that her urine is less concentrated and so less stinky. She has spare knickers at school, just in case, but she didn't think to change.
I just don't know what to do.
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ItisEyeLeScrooge · 04/12/2013 18:45
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